"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Girls who don't talk much..

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Can't figure out how to "seduce" these types. I've always been more of an "adder" when it comes to conversing, meaning I'm best at making funny, witty, clever, teasing, ect comments as someone else talks, but obviously this "game" doesn't work unless the girl is talking a lot. I've had two first dates recently..

On the first, the girl would talk, elaborate, and tell me a story whenever I'd ask her a question, so it was easy to keep the conversation going. I didn't have to do much and the girl even texted me after the date saying she had a great time. Unfortunately she wasn't that attractive to me.

The second first date was tonight, but this girl wasn't as talkative. I even want to say that I may have talked 70% of the time, and I'm not a great talker and story-teller, so this isn't.. Well... Good lol. I mean, there were a good amount of laughs and I was able to keep the conversation going most of the hour and 45 minutes (keyword being "most"), but it felt awkward at times, and yes, there were two or three silent moments, which is death these days because girls have so many different options ("don't have immediate, overflowing chemistry with this guy? No problem, there are 20 others lined up who want to go out with me. Forget this one).

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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Korrupt said:
Can't figure out how to "seduce" these types. I've always been more of an "adder" when it comes to conversing, meaning I'm best at making funny, witty, clever, teasing, ect comments as someone else talks, but obviously this "game" doesn't work unless the girl is talking a lot. I've had two first dates recently..

On the first, the girl would talk, elaborate, and tell me a story whenever I'd ask her a question, so it was easy to keep the conversation going. I didn't have to do much and the girl even texted me after the date saying she had a great time. Unfortunately she wasn't that attractive to me.

The second first date was tonight, but this girl wasn't as talkative. I even want to say that I may have talked 70% of the time, and I'm not a great talker and story-teller, so this isn't.. Well... Good lol. I mean, there were a good amount of laughs and I was able to keep the conversation going most of the hour and 45 minutes (keyword being "most"), but it felt awkward at times, and yes, there were two or three silent moments, which is death these days because girls have so many different options ("don't have immediate, overflowing chemistry with this guy? No problem, there are 20 others lined up who want to go out with me. Forget this one).

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Huh, interesting.. Figured I'd shoot her a text and say we should hang out again soon, but didn't actually expect to get anything back. Oddly enough she responded saying "yeah it was fun- we will have to do it again!"
 
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You're over thinking here man. Just because there are awkward moments doesn't mean its over, they're bound to happen. As long as you enjoy yourself she will more than likely will too.

Actions over words. (second date right?)

Also, your mindset is compromised if it wasn't already established. Instead of focusing on story time, focus on enjoying yourself.
 
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same problem here man... I'm still working on improving my conversation skills though... anyway I usually had luck so most of the girls were very talkative...
 
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I had that happen once and told her straight out "have we run out of things to talk about?" she was a quiet type her self, we'd been dating for almost a year at that point.

It didn't bother her at all. which surprised me.


and you can always quote "pulp fiction" for that awkward moment....usually gets a laugh.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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non talkers are underrated! married one, she was a good wife, last ltr was a not so much of a talker, she was cool, had an ltr witha talker, did my f ccuking head in, couldnt watch a dvd and follow the plot. I swear we watched a few and I have no idea what was going on with the movie, dont dismiss the nt's so quick, sex was as good
 
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Granted I'm more talkative than I used to be, but I've had girls in the past tell me they loved that they could be with me in silence and it's not awkward. If you don't act uncomfortable, they won't either.
 
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I used to attract this type often, back when I was quieter and less outspoken. I don't bother much with them anymore as I got tired of having to constantly drive like 90% of the conversation.
 
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Scratch that. Hit her up today about going out this weekend and never got a response. Women truly never cease to amaze me.
 
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Huh, interesting.. Figured I'd shoot her a text and say we should hang out again soon, but didn't actually expect to get anything back. Oddly enough she responded saying "yeah it was fun- we will have to do it again!"
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It was dead from that moment on. The vibe I got from the OP plus this was too much of a giveaway :(
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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