"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Girls who don't give you crap and behave well.

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What do you do about girls who don't try to walk over you and just respect you without a SINGLE attempt to downgrade you.

Like...if she is not giving you crap, shouldn't you be respectful just as much and not give her crap?

Like, one of the DJ things is to walk away if she is giving you crap, but what if she doesn't...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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then no need to walk away, you should always respect girls but also respect yourself. if she gives u crap u walk away.. if not then u treat her well, and u shouldnt reward for her good behaviour because u EXPECT good behaviour,
 
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Well, there is always some crap in any kind of relationship... What matters is to decide how much will be too much for you... then you walk away. Not an easy line to draw sometimes.
 
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Babnik said:
What do you do about girls who don't try to walk over you and just respect you without a SINGLE attempt to downgrade you.

Like...if she is not giving you crap, shouldn't you be respectful just as much and not give her crap?

Like, one of the DJ things is to walk away if she is giving you crap, but what if she doesn't...
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Hold on to them.
And treat them like every other girl. And the way you should treat every girl as if they were in third grade.

I always respect my girls. IF your girl isn't worthy of respect then you aren't worthy of respect by association.
 
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This girl in one of my classes.... to all guys she seems rude and like disses them but with me she is HIGHLY respectful. I don't understand this. Neither of the guys ever pays attention to her...so everyone acted the same. She did ask me out though.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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It's a sad state we're in if we're so focused on women playing head games that we have no idea what to when a good one crosses our path. This isn't anything against you Babnik, it's more about the information that's being propagated.
 
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you treat her right, respect her and respect her thoughts, but dont be her door mat,
its hard to explain becuase you are basicly asking "how to act in a relationship"

just do your own thing and treat your girl right, just because she treated u the best from out of all the girls doesnt mean u should treat her EXTRA Nice by giving her rides ALL the time and letitng her use u.. NO
you expect her to be good, you expect NO games, U expect NO disrespect. but girls make mistakes just as guys do, it all depends on how much u can take.. if she steps out of line, tell her nicely dont do it again. if she does it again, u give her the slience treatment... and there shouldnt be a 3rd time, if there is u walk away, quit wasting your time.

guys always get mixed up thinking "oh i'll never find a girl like her again" NO, you will, U WILL, never think like this, all girl are the same. they all have the ability and choices to cheat, they all have puzzies, they all sit down when they pee. you treat her how you wanna be treated. with respect, and when i mean respect, you give her space when she wants it. take her out to a nice place once a while. suprise her, be spontanous to her, surprise her.. GIVE HER FEELINGS. thats all she wants from you. is to experience feelings!!! if she wants a girls night out. respect that. you have guys night out too

its all about balance in the relationship it shouldnt be 10/90 or 30/70
should be close to 45/55 thats how close it should be. you should always have the lead and be the domintion one in the relationship but dont boss her around. give her freedom too, she aint your dog.
but rememebr, you guys , are the strongest one in the relationship. and the strongest ones in a LTR are the ones who need the other person the LEAST> which leads us with the ability to WALK AWAY
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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...its all about balance in the relationship it shouldnt be 10/90 or 30/70
should be close to 45/55 thats how close it should be. you should always have the lead and be the domintion one in the relationship but dont boss her around. give her freedom too, she aint your dog.
but rememebr, you guys , are the strongest one in the relationship. and the strongest ones in a LTR are the ones who need the other person the LEAST> which leads us with the ability to WALK AWAY
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So what if sex is all that's wanted?
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
So what if sex is all that's wanted?
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then you shouldnt be in the LTR in the first place, should be a fuk buddie relationship

a LTR without companionship, and other valuable traits AINT a LTR. and it defintly wont last long, either one or BOTH of the members will lose interest fast and lead into low interest which that leads to cheating, leaving, fights, less or NO sex.
 
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then you shouldnt be in the LTR in the first place, should be a fuk buddie relationship...
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He's not in a relationship with her. He just wants sex. Who brought up LTRs anyway?
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
He's not in a relationship with her. He just wants sex. Who brought up LTRs anyway?
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oh **** my bad, didnt read it quite well, well my opinion is that you got nothing to worry about, if u want just sex, get an evening to gether, get her comfortable and move in, if shes putitng enough resistance then back off, respect her space, not all girls are sluts, but theres no difference, if she treats u right then u dont need to walk away.

its kinda like asking "my car doenst break down, how should i drive it"
 
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