lizardking82
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Is this normal? Girls posting pics with their mom "I cannot live without you" and things like that?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Girls who are crazy over their moms?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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Ok now THIS is overthinking it. Are they supposed to hate their mothers or something? Damn.
lizardking82
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No, not overthinking, but I tend to wonder about extreme human behaviours in general and where they come from and if they can be considered cause for concern LOL
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There's no way you can know until you start to get to know her but any person that is overly invested in their family, or a pet, to where you come in second, is not someone who is going to make you a true priority. If you want a partner you have to make that partner your priority and the relationship has to be between you and them. People whom are overly invested in other people (family or not) are going to use them as a sounding board, then you have a 3rd person in the relationship, and that is usually not a good situation.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Better if they love their Mom that if they hate it, trust me on this one.
I'm seeing a pattern of jealousy issues coming from your posts.
Listen, the opposite of this behavior would be a girl who hates her parents. Believe me you don't want to deal with
someone who carries around a lot of built up resentment and anger.
People have different ways of expressing their love. What's important is that she has a healthy relationship with her
mother rather than a dysfunctional one.
lizardking82
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No need for jealousy. My relationship with my mother is quite sound so I got no reason to be jealous about someone else's with their mother, was just wondering if all the extra love showings on social media, posts with mom here and there. I mean, does it seem healthy to you to say "I cannot live without you, don't know what I would do without you"?
Yes it seems healthy to me. She's expressing love and appreciation to her mother.
You're focusing too much on the actual words and not enough on the meaning behind them. Well, you are more interpreting the
meaning in a different way. In how it fits your perception and not how it fits their perception.
So what if she says "I cannot live without you". Should she not feel that she would be devastated should her mother die?? Why not?
Again, I just see appreciation being expressed.
A better question to ask may be: why as a man, are you even reading the bull****e that women post on social media.
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The only thing that matters is that you get along with the family that she is really close to. If her parents or siblings don't like you and she's close to them, you don't stand a chance in hell of keeping her.
A GF's parents are a really odd subject to tackle. I don't think she needs to be extremely close to them (let alone her siblings), but I think it does matter that they are still together. Divorced parents fvck up a woman pretty badly. Also, I've met women who are totally fvcked up who have parents that treat them well.
A GF's parents are a really odd subject to tackle. I don't think she needs to be extremely close to them (let alone her siblings), but I think it does matter that they are still together. Divorced parents fvck up a woman pretty badly. Also, I've met women who are totally fvcked up who have parents that treat them well.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
lizardking82
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LOL common, man. When I go on social media, there are posts in my homefeed, just like in everyone's. I don't usually stay and wonder why she said this or go hours thinking about it, but it is a common behaviour of these people and I am sure not everything is all rosy and beautiful as they portray it. Because if you loved your mother so much, you would be a nice person overall because I think for a female, having a good mother figure makes her or breaks her. But man, oh man, some of these girls are just horrible people, hypocritical and ****ed up overall.
......yet, here you are making threads about it.....
"if you loved your mother so much, you would be a nice person overall....."
Your logic seems a little warped and your thinking very black and white. I would take a stab and say your expectations for people are full of "shoulds and oughts".
It serves one better to view circumstances rather than to perceive things as good or bad.
"if you loved your mother so much, you would be a nice person overall....."
Your logic seems a little warped and your thinking very black and white. I would take a stab and say your expectations for people are full of "shoulds and oughts".
It serves one better to view circumstances rather than to perceive things as good or bad.