lizardking82
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Is this normal? Girls posting pics with their mom "I cannot live without you" and things like that?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Girls who are crazy over their moms?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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Ok now THIS is overthinking it. Are they supposed to hate their mothers or something? Damn.
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No, not overthinking, but I tend to wonder about extreme human behaviours in general and where they come from and if they can be considered cause for concern LOL
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There's no way you can know until you start to get to know her but any person that is overly invested in their family, or a pet, to where you come in second, is not someone who is going to make you a true priority. If you want a partner you have to make that partner your priority and the relationship has to be between you and them. People whom are overly invested in other people (family or not) are going to use them as a sounding board, then you have a 3rd person in the relationship, and that is usually not a good situation.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Better if they love their Mom that if they hate it, trust me on this one.
I'm seeing a pattern of jealousy issues coming from your posts.
Listen, the opposite of this behavior would be a girl who hates her parents. Believe me you don't want to deal with
someone who carries around a lot of built up resentment and anger.
People have different ways of expressing their love. What's important is that she has a healthy relationship with her
mother rather than a dysfunctional one.
lizardking82
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No need for jealousy. My relationship with my mother is quite sound so I got no reason to be jealous about someone else's with their mother, was just wondering if all the extra love showings on social media, posts with mom here and there. I mean, does it seem healthy to you to say "I cannot live without you, don't know what I would do without you"?
Yes it seems healthy to me. She's expressing love and appreciation to her mother.
You're focusing too much on the actual words and not enough on the meaning behind them. Well, you are more interpreting the
meaning in a different way. In how it fits your perception and not how it fits their perception.
So what if she says "I cannot live without you". Should she not feel that she would be devastated should her mother die?? Why not?
Again, I just see appreciation being expressed.
A better question to ask may be: why as a man, are you even reading the bull****e that women post on social media.
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The only thing that matters is that you get along with the family that she is really close to. If her parents or siblings don't like you and she's close to them, you don't stand a chance in hell of keeping her.
A GF's parents are a really odd subject to tackle. I don't think she needs to be extremely close to them (let alone her siblings), but I think it does matter that they are still together. Divorced parents fvck up a woman pretty badly. Also, I've met women who are totally fvcked up who have parents that treat them well.
A GF's parents are a really odd subject to tackle. I don't think she needs to be extremely close to them (let alone her siblings), but I think it does matter that they are still together. Divorced parents fvck up a woman pretty badly. Also, I've met women who are totally fvcked up who have parents that treat them well.
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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LOL common, man. When I go on social media, there are posts in my homefeed, just like in everyone's. I don't usually stay and wonder why she said this or go hours thinking about it, but it is a common behaviour of these people and I am sure not everything is all rosy and beautiful as they portray it. Because if you loved your mother so much, you would be a nice person overall because I think for a female, having a good mother figure makes her or breaks her. But man, oh man, some of these girls are just horrible people, hypocritical and ****ed up overall.
......yet, here you are making threads about it.....
"if you loved your mother so much, you would be a nice person overall....."
Your logic seems a little warped and your thinking very black and white. I would take a stab and say your expectations for people are full of "shoulds and oughts".
It serves one better to view circumstances rather than to perceive things as good or bad.
"if you loved your mother so much, you would be a nice person overall....."
Your logic seems a little warped and your thinking very black and white. I would take a stab and say your expectations for people are full of "shoulds and oughts".
It serves one better to view circumstances rather than to perceive things as good or bad.