"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
girls that flirt heavily and want to hang out but know you're taken
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
SandHawk
Master Don Juan
When they flirt heavily, interpret it as a signal, just escalate normal. Just run a few extra of those kiss tests. Like the C movement over face to remove hair, bringing your lips really close.
Igetit!
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So you want to take these girls up on their offers to hang out?handle said:
What for?
It's just like you said,this is just her ego at play. What I'd like to know is....
Where were these girls when you were still single/available? Were they "flirting heavily" with you then,or did they just show up out of the blue when they learned you had expressed an interest in someone else?
If they were flirting with you back when you weren't dating anyone,then you might have a chance with them,but if they just recently started because you recently began seeing someone else,then they don't want you.
They just want you to want them.
Well be careful,dude. Because if all they want is just your attention,once they have it,they may end up making a complete FOOL out of you.handle said:
They'll keep getting you to "hang out" with them until your relationship with the other girl ends through making her angry or whatever,then the instant you officially become single,they'll be out the door.
On the bright side though,there is a way to "hang out" with these girls while NOT boosting their egos,but if you're already seeing someone,then I guess it really doesn't matter.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Igetit!, you make a good point, but all of the ones I've hung out with so far either have been into me since before I started the LTR or weren't aware of my LTR when they showed interest. I definitely get what you're saying though, and I'll watch for that. For me it's a way of keeping myself on my toes because I want to make sure my game's tight and I don't fall into that whole trap of not having branches to swing off of if something goes wrong. It's not even that much about branches, more about making sure I still know how to flirt, chat, etc.
5string
Master Don Juan
Also, I don't just "hang out" with chicks. I'm with them cuz i want to get some tail. Ask yourself if this is what you want, because this is where the road you're taking is leading to.