"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girls rule the dating game too much

JPlaya

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I finally go to a club near my college and the girl's are seriously dancing with their friends. They're going to keep doing that until some brad pitt look a like approaches them. The only guys dancing with girls were the guys with gfs.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Imagine u were a girl for a second. You are physically attractive, you know u are, people tell you that u are and to top this off you have a naturally low sex drive. If u were in that position you wouldnt really go out to ''have sex'' everytime because you know you can get it anytime u want and you are seeking a deeper connection with a person before getting down to it.
Girls are more social than guys and everything they do is usually motivated by how they are seen by others.

They usually go to clubs to have a good time with their friends and mingle and socialize and if you can operate on a social level while keeping your sexuality and masculinity , you will be fine. If you could get sex anytime you wanted , it would be cheapened to you and you would want something challenging and engaging/exciting. Thats the way it works. You need to be socially aware and attuned.
 

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Ever tried to squeeze into their sandwich? So to speak..

I've had some success with this. Take turns dancing with both of them. Showing them both equal attention. It will also help to have a wing once you have identified your target to pawn her friend off onto. Or even, make friends with some random guy and say "hey, look at those two girls dancing with each other. you wanna take one while I take the other?". You might have to do this a couple times, as most guys are pvssies, but I've actually had really good luck at clubs. I'm also not afraid to dance by myself. If women see a guy dancing by himself they might just try to dance up on you, or you might see more and more girls doing to the floor and dancing a lone to (hoping that you will dance with them). Just go out and don't give a fvck man. That's all it is. I actually enjoy dancing, I think it's fun. So I can go into a club and have a good time and expect nothing, but a lot of times girls will just approach me. I didn't get them to approach me by sitting around watching everyone else. I went out and had fun. Go and read some of my past lay reports. I have a couple where I was dancing then took a break smoking/buying another drink and then some girl starts a conversation with me and makes the pick-up so incredibly easy for me. I've only been 21 for 10 months now, and I've gotten 3 lays sense I started clubbing. Idk why everyone disses on it. I love it.

-Scars
 

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YAboi said:
Imagine u were a girl for a second. You are physically attractive, you know u are, people tell you that u are and to top this off you have a naturally low sex drive. If u were in that position you wouldnt really go out to ''have sex'' everytime because you know you can get it anytime u want and you are seeking a deeper connection with a person before getting down to it.
Girls are more social than guys and everything they do is usually motivated by how they are seen by others.

They usually go to clubs to have a good time with their friends and mingle and socialize and if you can operate on a social level while keeping your sexuality and masculinity , you will be fine. If you could get sex anytime you wanted , it would be cheapened to you and you would want something challenging and engaging/exciting. Thats the way it works. You need to be socially aware and attuned.
Possibly the best advice I've seen on this forum. Most guys don't see it from that perspective because they can't put themselves in the woman's shoes. They lack empathy.
 
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Possibly the best advice I've seen on this forum. Most guys don't see it from that perspective because they can't put themselves in the woman's shoes. They lack empathy.
I still don't understand why men go to bars and clubs to get laid. I see so many men try this "night time game", the "PUA Game" in bars and clubs and I'd say only a small minority of men are actually successful. I just go to clubs to socialise, get my groove on the dancefloor and usually I am off my face, not really attractive to women, but I don't care, music sounds so much better when you're off your head.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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