I finally go to a club near my college and the girl's are seriously dancing with their friends. They're going to keep doing that until some brad pitt look a like approaches them. The only guys dancing with girls were the guys with gfs.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Possibly the best advice I've seen on this forum. Most guys don't see it from that perspective because they can't put themselves in the woman's shoes. They lack empathy.YAboi said:Imagine u were a girl for a second. You are physically attractive, you know u are, people tell you that u are and to top this off you have a naturally low sex drive. If u were in that position you wouldnt really go out to ''have sex'' everytime because you know you can get it anytime u want and you are seeking a deeper connection with a person before getting down to it.
Girls are more social than guys and everything they do is usually motivated by how they are seen by others.
They usually go to clubs to have a good time with their friends and mingle and socialize and if you can operate on a social level while keeping your sexuality and masculinity , you will be fine. If you could get sex anytime you wanted , it would be cheapened to you and you would want something challenging and engaging/exciting. Thats the way it works. You need to be socially aware and attuned.
I still don't understand why men go to bars and clubs to get laid. I see so many men try this "night time game", the "PUA Game" in bars and clubs and I'd say only a small minority of men are actually successful. I just go to clubs to socialise, get my groove on the dancefloor and usually I am off my face, not really attractive to women, but I don't care, music sounds so much better when you're off your head.evansblue said:Possibly the best advice I've seen on this forum. Most guys don't see it from that perspective because they can't put themselves in the woman's shoes. They lack empathy.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.