"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Girls response to me telling her I miss her.

bruceartest24

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The girl I been dating for a few months went on a vacation for two weeks and she is returning today. Last night I texted her to wish her a safe trip back and to let her know I miss her and can't wait to see her. She sends me a blushing emoji and says see you soon.

What are your thoughts? I was expecting a I miss you too or something... feels like a friend zone ish response.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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zekko

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You're overthinking it. There's nothing wrong with that response.
Do yourself a favor and when you see her, focus on having fun with her instead of trying to analyze everything she says.
 

RangerMIke

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zekko said:
You're overthinking it. There's nothing wrong with that response.
Do yourself a favor and when you see her, focus on having fun with her instead of trying to analyze everything she says.
This. You can not read anything from a text message, all communication is through body language, come back and tell us how she responded when she saw you... but you know what, if you just trust your gut you will know where you stand and won't need any advice.
 

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Personally, I wouldn't advise anyone to tell a woman he misses her. You always want to keep her guessing about what you're feeling or thinking. Handing it to her on a platter takes out all the mystery and fun for her. Anyway, you already said it so don't overthink her response. Just maintain a solid frame and you'll be good.
 

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bruceartest24 said:
The girl I been dating for a few months went on a vacation for two weeks and she is returning today. Last night I texted her to wish her a safe trip back
This is OK.

and to let her know I miss her and can't wait to see her. She sends me a blushing emoji and says see you soon.

What are your thoughts?
This is no good bro. She can use it against you: you got nothing to do but miss her, she can use it as ammunition with her current boyfriend. "Look this guy misses me, you better smarten up and marry me!"

Never put emotion in text. Text is just a medium to set up a meet. You put emotion in text and now you lost frame and are nervous. :woo:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Firestar786

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Trump said:
This is OK.



This is no good bro. She can use it against you: you got nothing to do but miss her, she can use it as ammunition with her current boyfriend. "Look this guy misses me, you better smarten up and marry me!"

Never put emotion in text. Text is just a medium to set up a meet. You put emotion in text and now you lost frame and are nervous. :woo:
Very bad idea to say I miss you after two months.

Very bad idea.
 

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I agree with Firestar. Way to soon to say that to a girl only after 2 months. When she gets back, wait until end of week or several days (at least 4) before arranging to see her. Make yourself busy. Keep her guessing.
 
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