"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Girls response to me telling her I miss her.

bruceartest24

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The girl I been dating for a few months went on a vacation for two weeks and she is returning today. Last night I texted her to wish her a safe trip back and to let her know I miss her and can't wait to see her. She sends me a blushing emoji and says see you soon.

What are your thoughts? I was expecting a I miss you too or something... feels like a friend zone ish response.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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zekko

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You're overthinking it. There's nothing wrong with that response.
Do yourself a favor and when you see her, focus on having fun with her instead of trying to analyze everything she says.
 

RangerMIke

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zekko said:
You're overthinking it. There's nothing wrong with that response.
Do yourself a favor and when you see her, focus on having fun with her instead of trying to analyze everything she says.
This. You can not read anything from a text message, all communication is through body language, come back and tell us how she responded when she saw you... but you know what, if you just trust your gut you will know where you stand and won't need any advice.
 

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Personally, I wouldn't advise anyone to tell a woman he misses her. You always want to keep her guessing about what you're feeling or thinking. Handing it to her on a platter takes out all the mystery and fun for her. Anyway, you already said it so don't overthink her response. Just maintain a solid frame and you'll be good.
 

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bruceartest24 said:
The girl I been dating for a few months went on a vacation for two weeks and she is returning today. Last night I texted her to wish her a safe trip back
This is OK.

and to let her know I miss her and can't wait to see her. She sends me a blushing emoji and says see you soon.

What are your thoughts?
This is no good bro. She can use it against you: you got nothing to do but miss her, she can use it as ammunition with her current boyfriend. "Look this guy misses me, you better smarten up and marry me!"

Never put emotion in text. Text is just a medium to set up a meet. You put emotion in text and now you lost frame and are nervous. :woo:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Trump said:
This is OK.



This is no good bro. She can use it against you: you got nothing to do but miss her, she can use it as ammunition with her current boyfriend. "Look this guy misses me, you better smarten up and marry me!"

Never put emotion in text. Text is just a medium to set up a meet. You put emotion in text and now you lost frame and are nervous. :woo:
Very bad idea to say I miss you after two months.

Very bad idea.
 

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I agree with Firestar. Way to soon to say that to a girl only after 2 months. When she gets back, wait until end of week or several days (at least 4) before arranging to see her. Make yourself busy. Keep her guessing.
 
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