"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Girls Putting Their Legs on You

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Lately, a lot of girls have been putting their legs/feet up on my knees while they talk to me. Kind of like how you would put your feet up on a couch. They have not been doing it in a disrespectful way. This one particular girl has also been resting her head on my shoulder and saying she's "tired."

Do these actions qualify as "attracted" body language? No need to sh1t on me, I'm just wondering. I feel like they do. I'm just not sure how to escalate from there in a public setting and not do too much so that the girls end up feeling self-conscious and embarrassed.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I don't know about "attracted" there needs to be more for that. But it does show comfort.
 

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It could mean attraction, or it could mean you're a totally nice guy, who she loves to have as a friend. What do you think?
 

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If you're both sitting down and she puts her leg over your leg = GAME ON

Last time this happened to me I was making out with a female within minutes of she giving me that sign. Now when it comes to them resting their head on your shoulders that's sounds like comfort but you should take advantage of it. Put your arms around her, play with her hair, move your hand up and down her arm etc. Basically use this opportunity for kino in what she perceives as a harmless tender moment between you two. She won't suspect or know what you're trying to do but the more you touch a woman eventually you could turn her feelings for you if you keep at it.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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backbreaker said:
this thread is turning me on.
Yep that is kinda sexy especially if she's wearing something that shows of her thighs I would be feeling all up on that
 

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Depends, does she seem turned on? It's not that hard to tell.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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No, she was just elevating her legs to prevent varicose veins.
 

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If you can lie your hand on a girls leg and she is welcoming to it... then the chance are you will be able to lie your **** on her leg and she will be just as welcoming.
 

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If her legs are on me, then I am touching them. For me that is an open invitation to touch. If any part of her is on me, same thing!!!!!!! I consider this an IOI. If a women is not feeling you, she will not touch you, period, end of discussion. If she does not like being touched by me, then she will kindly remove the part she is violating my space with.
 

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SoldMySoul said:
If her legs are on me, then I am touching them. For me that is an open invitation to touch. If any part of her is on me, same thing!!!!!!! I consider this an IOI. If a women is not feeling you, she will not touch you, period, end of discussion. If she does not like being touched by me, then she will kindly remove the part she is violating my space with.
its often an invitation-- but to what is the real question

:rolleyes:
 
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yes - a classic sign of the C3 phase of mystery method being saturated to an extent necessary to proceed to S1 - game on, brother!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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maqnetik said:
its often an invitation-- but to what is the real quetsion

:rolleyes:

The answer to the question, if she is touching me, that is the best indication of interest you can get. Actions not words!!! If she touches me, I'm touching her and we all know where that leads!

There begs the question is she touching me because she thinks I am nice guy??? I tell you one thing, I am going to disprove her way of thinking rather quickly and respond like gang busters.
 

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SoldMySoul said:
The answer to the question, if she is touching me, that is the best indication of interest you can get. Actions not words!!! If she touches me, I'm touching her and we all know where that leads!

There begs the question is she touching me because she thinks I am nice guy??? I tell you one thing, I am going to disprove her way of thinking rather quickly and respond like gang busters.
i like your style

:cool:
 

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Cry For Love said:
yes - a classic sign of the C3 phase of mystery method being saturated to an extent necessary to proceed to S1 - game on, brother!
No idea what that means or if you're being sarcastic. I'm gonna take it as a good thing/encouragement!

If her legs are on me, then I am touching them. For me that is an open invitation to touch. If any part of her is on me, same thing!!!!!!! I consider this an IOI. If a women is not feeling you, she will not touch you, period, end of discussion. If she does not like being touched by me, then she will kindly remove the part she is violating my space with.
This ^

The answer to the question, if she is touching me, that is the best indication of interest you can get. Actions not words!!! If she touches me, I'm touching her and we all know where that leads!

There begs the question is she touching me because she thinks I am nice guy??? I tell you one thing, I am going to disprove her way of thinking rather quickly and respond like gang busters.
And this^.

Definitely how I will handle this from now on. Thanks for your wise comments.
 

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It's too bad you haven't ****ed each and every one of these girls already.
 

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new_hotness said:
It's too bad you haven't ****ed each and every one of these girls already.
strongly agree
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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