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Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Girls Paying For My Dates

total_afc

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I've noticed this with the last half dozen girls I've dated. They've all picked up the tabs on our dates, especially our first dates and sometimes subsequent dates if there are subsequent dates. I'm pretty shy, so half the time, it's the girl asking me out. But even when i ask the girl out, she winds up paying.

I tried paying for one girl (we were at the movies). She got extremely pissed off, offended and shoved my cash aside as if she were disgusted at my offer then continued to pay.

I DID manage to pay for a date with a girl recently. However, she kept asking me if she couldn't pay for her half of the check. "I got it," I said. "Are you sure?" she must've asked three times and seemed genuinely surprised that I would not let her pay.

These are all inexpensive first dates at the movies or a cafe so the financial burden on either side is minimal. But the thing is, I would feel more comfortable paying myself on the first date. However, I can't seem to get girls to allow me to do this. It also seems to create a very weird vibe when I do pay or try to pay. None of the girls has passively allowed me to pay.

What's your guys experience with this?
 

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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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The Sperminator

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Those are keepers man. Has happened to me a few times. The girls probably just like you a lot. What other reason would they pay for you. Well what happen after the dates? Did you go on more dates or what?
 

J-Bone

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hell yeh bro. let her pay!
 

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You gotta listen to Too $hort's Fvck My Car rap.


The only reason she would want you to pay for her is because she's BROKE and wants to EAT. Thus, you never pay for her.. If she complains, tell her are you BROKE and just tagging along with me so you could EAT? C&F.

I always go for 50/50. If she offers to pay it all, it's all good.

Should she ever cry about you paying the bill, never do it. Accuse her of being BROKE and tagging along with you so she could EAT. She's a gold digger, run.
 

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Woooo Woooo Woooo

slow down here.

MEN pay......period. The trick is not to be taken advantage of or buy her ridiculus stuff.

This is SOsuave, not how to get a sugar momma

Shorty will use this one sometime:

If you are out to dinner. ........sometime before the mel ends "excuse yourself and go to the bathroom" go track down the waitress and either pay her cash (if you know no more food will be ordered) or give her your credit card and tell her to run an open tab. Then go back to your table

1 of two things will happen at this point

1 If you paid cash, you get up, put a tip on the table, take your girl, smile at the staff wave say goodbye to them and walk out with her. Dont even mention it. She will be confused as to why you didnt have to pay, or they are not chasing you down with your check.

2 If you paid with the card. The waitress will bring the tab to the table and just askl you to sign for it. your girl will think you have an account there

The trick is make it a non issue, she will be impressed and be happy that the uncomfortable situation was totally avoided
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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"The trick is make it a non issue, she will be impressed and be happy that the uncomfortable situation was totally avoided"

:crackup:

Please......uncomfortable situation? As soon as i sit down all my dates,they are saying...what do u want to eat/drink....omg i love this place...eat anything u want i got it...this is so fun....lets dance after this....

now tell me, if u consider that uncomfortable then once again see below
:crackup:

btw no its not a expensive or extremely nice place and if she wants to pay for a meal because I AM THE MOST FUN SHE HAS EVER HAD IN HER LIFE...then i let her.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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total_afc said:
...What's your guys experience with this?
Quit 'yer complainin' and learn how to graciously accept their kindness. Stop focusing on your ego telling you must pay and focus on the woman who could be showing you that she's interested.
 

total_afc

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Francisco, I gotta ask, even though it's completely off-topic. I hear from one or two sources that Minneapolis has some SMOKING little HB's everywhere, congregrating at the big assed mall you guys have and runnin' around the Univ. of Minnesota campus. Any truth to these rumors? Inquiring minds want to know. :)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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