I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Back in the day, I along with many others would have jumped into this thread to criticize this approach as AFC, but I think many of us learned that what you say is completely irrelevant as long as you say what you say the right way.verysuave said:But, if lets say a co worker , classmate etc touched you in a flirty way, you look at them and say "don't do that again, because if you do, im gona ask you for your number/take you out/etc"
Opinion?
So I tried it on a co worker of mine. I'm new at this grocery store as a checker. This blonde started the flirting with me. I iniated the kino. then she kinoed back. back and forth..moto said:anyone else try this?
what were your responses
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Agree. That's not smooth at all.squirrels said:James Bond wouldn't say that.
I'm just going to ignore her until she does something again. But, she initiated the feisty attitude with me, asking me about my skull ring, asking all kinds of questions etc etc. But yah, ill give the silent treatment. Ill keep everyone posted.Play the Game said:Agree. That's not smooth at all.
You can't let her now your intentions that early in the game, if at all. If you do it's like seing a movie your friend already spoiled by telling you the ending. You gotta let the attraction build first.
Like this....
James Bond would say: You shouldn't play with fire dear...... you might get burned.
Then she would say: Hmmm that's just a chance i'm gonna have to take Mr. Bond.[in a hot eastern european accent]
Of course in real life you don't want to walk around using one liners. But you get the point. It has to be ambiguous and suggestive at the same time. You have to show her that you're ready to get in the ring, and challenge her not wuss out and supplicate.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.