Moneytalks
Don Juan
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Well, true or false?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yet very few women can handle being with a soldier.chinwaggler said:I'm pretty sure most girls, if not all, like a man in uniform.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I've found the exact same thing.Last_straw said:I remember when I lived on a base near a major city (well it was still a pretty small city but whatever) it was harder to hook up with a local girl if you looked like you were in the military. But luckily there was a university there and the out of town girls weren't so cautious.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
unfortunately there's a lot of guys in the military that show a bad example, ruins things for everyone else. Rude, way too forward, drunks. And ppl just assume stuff, especially women that have been around guys like these too much.Real Talk said:The military guys in the nearby base didn't have a great rep when it comes to the ladies. My girl friends would tell me how crude and forward they could be.
I did go to a college that graduates a ton of doctors and engineers, so as far as social group its probably a group thats a little different than the military crowd.
So true. Most of my friends that served either in OEF or OIF were cheated on the moment they went in-country. The one guy whose wife remained loyal was herself an army brat once. She knew what she was getting into, and she meant her vows when she uttered them.Falcon25 said:Girls who like military guys are girls who grew up with military guys (fathers, brothers, etc.) Just like cops like other cops or nurses who like doctors. You will have a good chance with girls who have military backgrounds within their families, everything else will be a fuvk and done.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.