Moneytalks
Don Juan
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Well, true or false?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yet very few women can handle being with a soldier.chinwaggler said:I'm pretty sure most girls, if not all, like a man in uniform.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I've found the exact same thing.Last_straw said:I remember when I lived on a base near a major city (well it was still a pretty small city but whatever) it was harder to hook up with a local girl if you looked like you were in the military. But luckily there was a university there and the out of town girls weren't so cautious.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
unfortunately there's a lot of guys in the military that show a bad example, ruins things for everyone else. Rude, way too forward, drunks. And ppl just assume stuff, especially women that have been around guys like these too much.Real Talk said:The military guys in the nearby base didn't have a great rep when it comes to the ladies. My girl friends would tell me how crude and forward they could be.
I did go to a college that graduates a ton of doctors and engineers, so as far as social group its probably a group thats a little different than the military crowd.
So true. Most of my friends that served either in OEF or OIF were cheated on the moment they went in-country. The one guy whose wife remained loyal was herself an army brat once. She knew what she was getting into, and she meant her vows when she uttered them.Falcon25 said:Girls who like military guys are girls who grew up with military guys (fathers, brothers, etc.) Just like cops like other cops or nurses who like doctors. You will have a good chance with girls who have military backgrounds within their families, everything else will be a fuvk and done.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.