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Don Juan
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Well, true or false?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Yet very few women can handle being with a soldier.chinwaggler said:I'm pretty sure most girls, if not all, like a man in uniform.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I've found the exact same thing.Last_straw said:I remember when I lived on a base near a major city (well it was still a pretty small city but whatever) it was harder to hook up with a local girl if you looked like you were in the military. But luckily there was a university there and the out of town girls weren't so cautious.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
unfortunately there's a lot of guys in the military that show a bad example, ruins things for everyone else. Rude, way too forward, drunks. And ppl just assume stuff, especially women that have been around guys like these too much.Real Talk said:The military guys in the nearby base didn't have a great rep when it comes to the ladies. My girl friends would tell me how crude and forward they could be.
I did go to a college that graduates a ton of doctors and engineers, so as far as social group its probably a group thats a little different than the military crowd.
So true. Most of my friends that served either in OEF or OIF were cheated on the moment they went in-country. The one guy whose wife remained loyal was herself an army brat once. She knew what she was getting into, and she meant her vows when she uttered them.Falcon25 said:Girls who like military guys are girls who grew up with military guys (fathers, brothers, etc.) Just like cops like other cops or nurses who like doctors. You will have a good chance with girls who have military backgrounds within their families, everything else will be a fuvk and done.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.