Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Girls Keep Bailing On Me

Locogooner

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I've made plans with 3 different girls in the past 6 months and each just stopped replying to my messages after a while.

Here is the latest example.

So I was at this party and met up with some hot chicks from school I used to speak to but I hadn't seen in about 2 years.

They shouted my name and called me over, I hugged them and chatted to them for a while. One of them asked to hug me again because I'd become so 'muscely' and they asked me to tense them. Then they asked me to invite them out for my birthday. I asked them If they really would and they said yes.One of the girls kept complimenting my accent and perfume. Then they asked me to come to this club down the street. but I had to stay with my mates so I didn't go. I should have got their numbers though.

I've got them both on FB, should i message them or is it too needy? also the dilemma i have is that I've already exchanged naughty messages over facebook with both chicks and both times they ended up awarkwadly(I never met up with them)
Eventually one of the girls posts on my wall.

http://i.snag.gy/hZrOQ.jpg

She hasn't replied since and she already made a facebook status after my last post.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Make her put up or shutup.

Get her number and make a date.
 

Locogooner

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PrettyBoyAJ said:
Make her put up or shutup.

Get her number and make a date.
She ignored my post though?

If I might her in real life again and she's receptive I might ask, but I feel like I'd be playing the chasing game.
 

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Talking to girls on facebook isn't exactly a good display of confidence. You should have gotten her number. This is the first step that you must take. Get her number or better yet, have her call you. Slider her your number anyway you can and tell her to call you.

Then ask her out.
 

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Locogooner said:
I've made plans with 3 different girls in the past 6 months and each just stopped replying to my messages after a while.
Well, my biggest piece of advice would be to make plans with more than 3 girls in 6 months. The odds are not in your favor.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Locogooner

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Yeah I completely forgot to get both girls' numbers. That was my mistake.
 

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This is bizzare... You didn't even date these girls, or ask for their number. In fact, you kind of rejected them. And like Iceburg said - 3 girls in 6 months? It's not adding up. Girls aren't bailing on you. They are showing interest, which you should be picking up on, and escalating. I wouldn't expect much out of them, though. Definitely no reason to focus on them. Hot chicks, clubs, aggressive, flirting only when you put on muscle... Flings at best. Don't assume you are special; they probably do this a lot, and already moved on.

But again, 3 girls isn't enough to make any kind of judgements. Especially if they're the same type.
 

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floydb25 said:
This is bizzare... You didn't even date these girls, or ask for their number. In fact, you kind of rejected them. And like Iceburg said - 3 girls in 6 months? It's not adding up. Girls aren't bailing on you. They are showing interest, which you should be picking up on, and escalating. I wouldn't expect much out of them, though. Definitely no reason to focus on them. Hot chicks, clubs, aggressive, flirting only when you put on muscle... Flings at best. Don't assume you are special; they probably do this a lot, and already moved on.

But again, 3 girls isn't enough to make any kind of judgements. Especially if they're the same type.
they're not club chicks. they're girls I've known from school. In this case they are girls I've known for 7 years. I emphasised 3 girls in 6 months because those are 3 times I've clearly made plans with girls over FB and they've even ignored it or blown me off(no pun).

In the last case, with the pic I showed I don't see what I could have done different? I mean yeah I should have got their numbers at the time but idk why she wouldn't reply back.
 

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The pics didn't show up. Or they don't work. Or this phone sucks. Either way, I can't see them.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Locogooner said:
Yeah I completely forgot to get both girls' numbers. That was my mistake.
Glad you realized your guilty offense.

Read what floyd, prettyboy, and iceberg said. Your princesses are all in another castle right now.

Now leave my courtroom and get the digits! For f**k's sake, take the initiative! Grow a pair!

Case closed.
 

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nismo-4 said:
Glad you realized your guilty offense.

Read what floyd, prettyboy, and iceberg said. Your princesses are all in another castle right now.

Now leave my courtroom and get the digits! For f**k's sake, take the initiative! Grow a pair!

Case closed.
the girl didn't reply back though. Wouldn't it be AFC to double message?
 
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