"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Girls Keep Bailing On Me

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I've made plans with 3 different girls in the past 6 months and each just stopped replying to my messages after a while.

Here is the latest example.

So I was at this party and met up with some hot chicks from school I used to speak to but I hadn't seen in about 2 years.

They shouted my name and called me over, I hugged them and chatted to them for a while. One of them asked to hug me again because I'd become so 'muscely' and they asked me to tense them. Then they asked me to invite them out for my birthday. I asked them If they really would and they said yes.One of the girls kept complimenting my accent and perfume. Then they asked me to come to this club down the street. but I had to stay with my mates so I didn't go. I should have got their numbers though.

I've got them both on FB, should i message them or is it too needy? also the dilemma i have is that I've already exchanged naughty messages over facebook with both chicks and both times they ended up awarkwadly(I never met up with them)
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Eventually one of the girls posts on my wall.

http://i.snag.gy/hZrOQ.jpg

She hasn't replied since and she already made a facebook status after my last post.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Make her put up or shutup.

Get her number and make a date.
 
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PrettyBoyAJ said:
Make her put up or shutup.

Get her number and make a date.
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She ignored my post though?

If I might her in real life again and she's receptive I might ask, but I feel like I'd be playing the chasing game.
 
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Talking to girls on facebook isn't exactly a good display of confidence. You should have gotten her number. This is the first step that you must take. Get her number or better yet, have her call you. Slider her your number anyway you can and tell her to call you.

Then ask her out.
 
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Locogooner said:
I've made plans with 3 different girls in the past 6 months and each just stopped replying to my messages after a while.
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Well, my biggest piece of advice would be to make plans with more than 3 girls in 6 months. The odds are not in your favor.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Yeah I completely forgot to get both girls' numbers. That was my mistake.
 
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This is bizzare... You didn't even date these girls, or ask for their number. In fact, you kind of rejected them. And like Iceburg said - 3 girls in 6 months? It's not adding up. Girls aren't bailing on you. They are showing interest, which you should be picking up on, and escalating. I wouldn't expect much out of them, though. Definitely no reason to focus on them. Hot chicks, clubs, aggressive, flirting only when you put on muscle... Flings at best. Don't assume you are special; they probably do this a lot, and already moved on.

But again, 3 girls isn't enough to make any kind of judgements. Especially if they're the same type.
 
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floydb25 said:
This is bizzare... You didn't even date these girls, or ask for their number. In fact, you kind of rejected them. And like Iceburg said - 3 girls in 6 months? It's not adding up. Girls aren't bailing on you. They are showing interest, which you should be picking up on, and escalating. I wouldn't expect much out of them, though. Definitely no reason to focus on them. Hot chicks, clubs, aggressive, flirting only when you put on muscle... Flings at best. Don't assume you are special; they probably do this a lot, and already moved on.

But again, 3 girls isn't enough to make any kind of judgements. Especially if they're the same type.
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they're not club chicks. they're girls I've known from school. In this case they are girls I've known for 7 years. I emphasised 3 girls in 6 months because those are 3 times I've clearly made plans with girls over FB and they've even ignored it or blown me off(no pun).

In the last case, with the pic I showed I don't see what I could have done different? I mean yeah I should have got their numbers at the time but idk why she wouldn't reply back.
 
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The pics didn't show up. Or they don't work. Or this phone sucks. Either way, I can't see them.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Locogooner said:
Yeah I completely forgot to get both girls' numbers. That was my mistake.
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Glad you realized your guilty offense.

Read what floyd, prettyboy, and iceberg said. Your princesses are all in another castle right now.

Now leave my courtroom and get the digits! For f**k's sake, take the initiative! Grow a pair!

Case closed.
 
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nismo-4 said:
Glad you realized your guilty offense.

Read what floyd, prettyboy, and iceberg said. Your princesses are all in another castle right now.

Now leave my courtroom and get the digits! For f**k's sake, take the initiative! Grow a pair!

Case closed.
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the girl didn't reply back though. Wouldn't it be AFC to double message?
 
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