"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Girls Keep Bailing On Me

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I've made plans with 3 different girls in the past 6 months and each just stopped replying to my messages after a while.

Here is the latest example.

So I was at this party and met up with some hot chicks from school I used to speak to but I hadn't seen in about 2 years.

They shouted my name and called me over, I hugged them and chatted to them for a while. One of them asked to hug me again because I'd become so 'muscely' and they asked me to tense them. Then they asked me to invite them out for my birthday. I asked them If they really would and they said yes.One of the girls kept complimenting my accent and perfume. Then they asked me to come to this club down the street. but I had to stay with my mates so I didn't go. I should have got their numbers though.

I've got them both on FB, should i message them or is it too needy? also the dilemma i have is that I've already exchanged naughty messages over facebook with both chicks and both times they ended up awarkwadly(I never met up with them)
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Eventually one of the girls posts on my wall.

http://i.snag.gy/hZrOQ.jpg

She hasn't replied since and she already made a facebook status after my last post.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Make her put up or shutup.

Get her number and make a date.
 
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PrettyBoyAJ said:
Make her put up or shutup.

Get her number and make a date.
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She ignored my post though?

If I might her in real life again and she's receptive I might ask, but I feel like I'd be playing the chasing game.
 
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Talking to girls on facebook isn't exactly a good display of confidence. You should have gotten her number. This is the first step that you must take. Get her number or better yet, have her call you. Slider her your number anyway you can and tell her to call you.

Then ask her out.
 
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Locogooner said:
I've made plans with 3 different girls in the past 6 months and each just stopped replying to my messages after a while.
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Well, my biggest piece of advice would be to make plans with more than 3 girls in 6 months. The odds are not in your favor.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Yeah I completely forgot to get both girls' numbers. That was my mistake.
 
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This is bizzare... You didn't even date these girls, or ask for their number. In fact, you kind of rejected them. And like Iceburg said - 3 girls in 6 months? It's not adding up. Girls aren't bailing on you. They are showing interest, which you should be picking up on, and escalating. I wouldn't expect much out of them, though. Definitely no reason to focus on them. Hot chicks, clubs, aggressive, flirting only when you put on muscle... Flings at best. Don't assume you are special; they probably do this a lot, and already moved on.

But again, 3 girls isn't enough to make any kind of judgements. Especially if they're the same type.
 
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floydb25 said:
This is bizzare... You didn't even date these girls, or ask for their number. In fact, you kind of rejected them. And like Iceburg said - 3 girls in 6 months? It's not adding up. Girls aren't bailing on you. They are showing interest, which you should be picking up on, and escalating. I wouldn't expect much out of them, though. Definitely no reason to focus on them. Hot chicks, clubs, aggressive, flirting only when you put on muscle... Flings at best. Don't assume you are special; they probably do this a lot, and already moved on.

But again, 3 girls isn't enough to make any kind of judgements. Especially if they're the same type.
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they're not club chicks. they're girls I've known from school. In this case they are girls I've known for 7 years. I emphasised 3 girls in 6 months because those are 3 times I've clearly made plans with girls over FB and they've even ignored it or blown me off(no pun).

In the last case, with the pic I showed I don't see what I could have done different? I mean yeah I should have got their numbers at the time but idk why she wouldn't reply back.
 
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The pics didn't show up. Or they don't work. Or this phone sucks. Either way, I can't see them.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Locogooner said:
Yeah I completely forgot to get both girls' numbers. That was my mistake.
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Glad you realized your guilty offense.

Read what floyd, prettyboy, and iceberg said. Your princesses are all in another castle right now.

Now leave my courtroom and get the digits! For f**k's sake, take the initiative! Grow a pair!

Case closed.
 
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nismo-4 said:
Glad you realized your guilty offense.

Read what floyd, prettyboy, and iceberg said. Your princesses are all in another castle right now.

Now leave my courtroom and get the digits! For f**k's sake, take the initiative! Grow a pair!

Case closed.
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the girl didn't reply back though. Wouldn't it be AFC to double message?
 
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