"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Girls interested in me...do i have to talk to her daily to keep her intrest?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Marf
Don Juan
IceboltsGRL
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Nexxus
Senior Don Juan
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Mr. Debonaire
Master Don Juan
welcome, hun
Patrick124
Master Don Juan
but this is daily. I know i shouldn't talk to her so much[its usalyl about a half hour a day], its not liek to to talk to any other girls this often...but our conversations are always lively and fun.
I'm going to cutback and find stuff to do at night now jsut to avoid these conversations some. But do you think i've damaged my game at all[trust me, from out chill-sessions she is REALLY into me]??
and lastly, last night right before i got offline she goes[it fit into the conversation, wasn't jsut random] but she said "i'm running out of stories." bad sign?is she getting bored with me?when she said thsis he was implying she wnated to ehar one of my stories but i was getting off. anyways, thanks DJs.
Mr. Debonaire
Master Don Juan
oh no you didn't!
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.