Girls ignoring me?

[Sebastian2005]

Hey guys,

why after a few messages back-and-forth on ig girls ghost me?

Firstly, they respond quickly with a bunch of messages at once, and then it's end.

I'm firstly finding a match on dating app, then I ask a girl about her ig to move away from dating apps ASAP.

Am I doing something wrong, if yes, what can I do to change that?

I thought about building up my ig profile, especially considering that I'm only 19 yo, in good shape but already travelling a lot and I know a lot of important people since I'm working on my business.

Now I don't have any photos on my ig, only on dating apps.

Any help?

 

[crowolf]

Give a real example from a conversation.

We can't know. Maybe you are boring. Maybe you are too eager. Maybe you don't invite them out and they don't want to chat anymore. Maybe they just use you for some attention until they get attention from who they really want. Who knows, especially with no context?

Also, what is the point of moving her to IG if you don't upload there or don't have a good profile? Move her to WhatsApp instead.

 

[SW15]

No photos on IG is going to affect your results. On IG, you need a public profile and photos at a minimum. Some videos would help too.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Now I don't have any photos on my ig, only on dating apps.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Either you aren't interesting to talk with or they are giving you opportunities to disqualify yourself to them and you take it.

 

[Gamisch]

Gotta ask their phone number. Moving from one app to another app is basically staying in the same environment.

On top of that ,online dating is simply volatile. By showing your lame ig account you disqualify yourself by default.

You are young, and I can imagine that dating is extremely tough nowadays for young guys. I would recommend you try to put this effort into real life interactions.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Get her off the dating app and on to your phone ASAP.

 

[sevbucmash]

OP, you ever ignored a call or message from someone who annoys you?

Same thing with girls.

They get on dating app, they want a guy now. Insta male. So what you do is you get them on your phone -- voice. If you can. If not, you keep them on dating app.

Even better, get them on camera.

 

[sevbucmash]

If she's talking with you on voice or video and if she's willing to talk to you and not just text. That means the two of you are evaluating each other. Which is valuable. If not interested, that means she saved you your time, and you saved her time too.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

This can be caused by doing something wrong, such texting too much and not escalating quickly enough. Women get bored and have tons of options, you gotta strike while the iron is hot.

On the other hand you might do everything right and they still will ghost you for seemingly no reason. The only solution is to assume they will flake/ghost and always be talking to multiple women, it's kind of like job apps, always be applying and scheduling interviews.

With texting, I find high-risk strategies are better, such as not replying for days or weeks, saying outlandishly ****y things, or escalating very quickly. Playing the "safe" game in texting rarely works, and is in a sense more likely to fail, at least in that initial pre 1st date period.

 

[BPH]

Am I doing something wrong

Yes...almost everything.

why after a few messages back-and-forth on ig girls ghost me?

Firstly, they respond quickly with a bunch of messages at once, and then it's end.

I'm firstly finding a match on dating app, then I ask a girl about her ig to move away from dating apps ASAP.

Don't bother messaging girls on Instagram unless you have a large following, are some public figure, or know them in person. I've been with quite a few women - only 1 was from a message initiated over Instagram.

If you're matching with them on dating apps first then grow some balls and ask for their phone number instead of their Instagram or Snapchat.

I thought about building up my ig profile, especially considering that I'm only 19 yo, in good shape but already travelling a lot and I know a lot of important people since I'm working on my business.

Now I don't have any photos on my ig, only on dating apps.

Any help?

So you're young, in good shape, traveling to interesting places and you DON'T want to showcase that to women? That'd be like having a chiseled physique with a perfect 6-pack but opting to wear a fat suit...

Not to mention the fact that you DO have pictures on your dating profile but NOT on your Instagram, meaning a lot of these women are probably thinking you're fake.

It's no wonder you're having problems. The surprising part is that you weren't able to figure this out yourself.

 

[Clockwerk50]

What would you think if a woman asked you to move the conversation to Instagram, only for you to find an empty profile with no pictures or followers? My first thought would be that she's hiding something - maybe she's a catfish, insecure about her looks, or not serious about meeting someone.

Remember, women don't want to waste time. There's a biological clock at play, and many are looking to pair up with the best available option as soon as possible. The good news is you're already getting matches, and they're willing to move in the direction you want, the problem is they are disappointed at the route you chose. Now it's about refining your approach -trial and error. Don't be afraid of being vulnerable and judged. Instead, build a life you'd admire, and let that be reflected in your profile or personality.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Hey guys,

why after a few messages back-and-forth on ig girls ghost me?

Firstly, they respond quickly with a bunch of messages at once, and then it's end.

I'm firstly finding a match on dating app, then I ask a girl about her ig to move away from dating apps ASAP.

Am I doing something wrong, if yes, what can I do to change that?

I thought about building up my ig profile, especially considering that I'm only 19 yo, in good shape but already travelling a lot and I know a lot of important people since I'm working on my business.

Now I don't have any photos on my ig, only on dating apps.

Any help?

Why would you move from app A to app B, that’s fvckboy territory. Move to the phone.

 

[jhonny9546]

In my life experience, when women have been "open" "flirty" and "positive" in my presence, often initiating interaction with me, it was because they saw me more as a "friend", even tho they were attracted.

When women have been "reserved" "intimidated" "quiet" almost "scared" in my presence, it was often because they were attracted, and saw me as a possible partner.

This might be controvertial. YMMV

 

[justacoder]

Hey guys,

why after a few messages back-and-forth on ig girls ghost me?

Firstly, they respond quickly with a bunch of messages at once, and then it's end.

I'm firstly finding a match on dating app, then I ask a girl about her ig to move away from dating apps ASAP.

Am I doing something wrong, if yes, what can I do to change that?

I thought about building up my ig profile, especially considering that I'm only 19 yo, in good shape but already travelling a lot and I know a lot of important people since I'm working on my business.

Now I don't have any photos on my ig, only on dating apps.

Any help?

You feel like you are the only one to do this? if yes, feeling sorry for you.

Wdym by a bunch of messages, logical conversations aren't fun & here you refer it as a bunch then it's logical crap for real.

Just be you, there's no rule like building profile will get you chicks instead this won't set you apart from guys hitting her on ig/dating apps + you don't need to flash sh*t like travelling having your physique in good shape or such just to get her attention that's needy. Dress decently & just be the real you, meet her in person talk n explore. It's her choice either she'll accept or reject.

Use texting to setup dates after starting a casual convo with her and try to escalate things in person, practice what works for you what doesn't. There's no rulebook you need to follow in order to meet a person face-to-face.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Gen Z women are quite possibly some of the most awkward and difficult to engage because they are all TikTok obsessed and there are a lot of Gen Z female TikTok creators absolutely ripping men and the things men say / do with women.

You can say one wrong word in one wrong context and you'll either get ghosted or screen shotted and ripped in a group chat

I can see the same attitude in the body language of Gen Z women in my gym , 9/10 they are always peacocking yet have extremely hostile and defensive body languages along with facial expressions that quietly say " don't even dare try it "

This is certainly a very difficult generation of women to deal with because they've pretty much grown up with social media and being treated like they sh1t gold.

Women have now had the upper hand in the dating markets for well over a decade , as more and more men check out it will eventually flip back around to where women start getting desperate and dropping the b1tch shields.

We aren't there yet but it is starting with dating apps beginning to fail.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

My previous GF was Gen Z. Other than being a kid (she was 19), she was a Wokester. However, it was a mere veneer. I think Gen Z are just typical of young women of any generation.

 

[BaronOfHair]

why after a few messages back-and-forth on ig girls ghost me?

It's tough for these gals to maintain a convo, when you continue adding them to your "resume" https://nypost.com/2025/06/07/us-ne...driana-suazos-body-being-found-in-small-town/

Leave the blades and suitcase(s) up in the attic... The ladies may keep drawing breath long enough for things to progress further than they have

 

[BadBoy89]

they are giving you opportunities to disqualify yourself to them and you take it.

Do you mean they are testing him to see if he passes or fails?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Do you mean they are testing him to see if he passes or fails?

Sort of. Essentially why so many men get flaked on before first dates is that women have too many options so they have quick disqualifiers that they use to get rid of men who they think will be a waste of their time.

They can't go on every date with every guy so they eliminate the "first wave" of guys prior to the first date and then only meet with men who don't disqualify themselves prior to the date.