I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
:crackup:Originally posted by teencraft
if you stop taking showers then the girls will flock to you.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You're an idiot. Why would you even bother posting immediately. You should have been checking the site, reading articles...that would have been the most logical thing to do.Originally posted by Shaked
you know, you people are really a bunch of jurks, i just came here and almost all of you attack me, i will never come back to this forum, i'd rather stay A pathethic single than letting you people help me. You should really be ashamed of yourself.
I came to this forum because i really needed help, not to be told to stop taking showers or be called insane, or to be called p****
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Wow, you're giving up on this forum THAT quickly? You seem to give up on a LOT of things quickly.....and I wonder why you aren't good with women? HMMMM....you know, you people are really a bunch of jurks, i just came here and almost all of you attack me, i will never come back to this forum, i'd rather stay A pathethic single than letting you people help me. You should really be ashamed of yourself.
I came to this forum because i really needed help, not to be told to stop taking showers or be called insane, or to be called p****
Originally posted by Shaked
you know, you people are really a bunch of jurks
Originally posted by Shaked
you know, you people are really a bunch of jurks, i just came here and almost all of you attack me, i will never come back to this forum, i'd rather stay A pathethic single than letting you people help me. You should really be ashamed of yourself.
you would? you should be ashamed of yourself not being persistent and confident of yourself
the purpose here is to identify problems and grow, not to post vague problems that can be fixed with experience
and dont take comments too personally..that really shows you're not "masculine"
so better to stay and learn
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.