"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
girls don't approach me very often
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You have some things to deal with. Seize that opportunity. Try to see all your flaws and correct them.
Girls are like a termometer for many other things. If you crash and burn on this area, sometimes you have other issues to deal with.
I repeat: seize that opportunity. Take that subject, Girls, out of sight for some time. Deal with your problems first. When you're done, you'll be happy and will have all it takes to attract a lot of them.
they rarely approach men
plus a lot of women believe it's the mans job to approach and it's the woman's job to do the attracting
I don't trust that hotornot thing, for starters you don't know who is judging you, it could be
gay guys
stay at home mums
teenage girls
50 year old women
your teacher at school
another guy
People from different races and cultures
or anyone
what matters is the score from the women you are wanting to hookup with. Which is not taken into account on hotornot this makes the score pretty much meaningless.
having said that, 7 is good. doesn't it say you are hotter than 67% of the men on this site or something?
that seems a bit strange to me, how come there are such a high number of men under 7 on hotornot?
another thing to think about is that it is just a picture and there is so much more that makes a person hot, like the way they move and act etc... they should maybe start allowing video clips.
plus the number of votes can have an impact, a small number of votes means the result can easily be swayed one way or the other by only a few people.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Plain & Simple
Senior Don Juan
IF you want it go get it, you should do the approaching, mosr of the times youll see a hottie and she wont even notice you, so its on you to approch her, other times she will notice you, and inside her she wants you to approach her but unfortunately in this millenium its the "mans job" to do the approaching and thats programmed in most women minds.
so she will just seat back and wait for you to approach, so now yall both hoping that the other one approaches and what happens......nobody approaches noone, so now yall both are thinking, oh she is so stuck up she thinks she all that, or i guess she doesnt like me.
"damn, what's wrong with me? why arn't I attractive enough for this guy to approach me? maybe it's this dress or my shoes?"
or
"Awww he looks like a nice guy but he hasn't got any confidence, I want a guy with confidence, why don't the nice looking guys have confidence?"
it depends on her self esteem.
but if she gives you eye contact and you don't approach she looses too.