"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girls Approaching Me Again: It's All Good. ;)

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Went to a class today: not too big, not too small, about 40 people.

A girl opened me immediately, as soon as the class started.

I walk in looking for an open chair in an apparently full class. She spots me, immediately pulls up a chair for me to sit next to her, and also offers her desk to share as well.

I think one mistake I made was instead of chatting her up when the opportunity presented, I scanned for some additional hotties. I wasn't quite focused on her.

She did chat me up again maybe four or five times after she opened me, so the interest is certainly there. She would usually do this after some other guy tried to talk to her.

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I think I ran into the hot girl I saw a couple of days ago. She was staring at me blatantly the other day for quite some time, without making any attempt to hide what she was doing. It was almost animalistic, very raw.

I guess it was her: about the same height and weight, and I guess same facial features? We didn't talk the other day, and I didn't stare back; so I'm not sure.

Anyway, she's crazy hot. We were face to face at break, and she just sort of froze and stopped, kind of stupefied. I didn't say or do anything either.

I have to admit, I have been a bit of a hermit the past few weeks, focusing on exercise and recovery and that's just about it.

Hopefully I can come out of my shell a bit. :rock:

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Forgot: there's a third girl I'm working on. She's a shortie and very, very cute. She is just as shy as she is cute, which is very.

I tried talking to her, and all she can muster right now is to agree: "yeah" and then burst out in giggles.

She seems really comfortable talking to people, as long as they are girls. Talking to guys seems to be a stretch for her. She seems like a really cool girl, but just shy.
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Heh, you're not being a douche!

I'm starting up a journal. I don't know if there is a field report section or not. I'll put it there from now on. Or, I'll create a journal here.
 

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What was the reason they didnt approach you before for some time?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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