"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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girls and there stupid signs

Raikojo17

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y do girls always try to give bs signs to show interest or non interest? this one girl i was talking to found a bf and then doesnt respond to me for like a whole evening. the whole thing ended with a fight with her bf and her tellin me that i shoulda got the idea she wasnt intereseted becuz she stopped talkin to me ( altho her bf told her not to). im like "wow a whole evening of not talking, i guess that's a sign of disinterest, yea right" my friends have had similar things happen to them where the chick says she been givin out hints to sho her lack of attraction. girl's signs r complete bullsh!t. they show nothing.. y cant they jus be straight up and say "hey i dont like u"?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Why do only 5% of the population of the US hold 70% of its wealth ??

Why do I get laid, when other people don't ??

Why did my oneitis girl fvck the other guy instead of me ??

Why anything ??


Figure out how to beat the system, not answer pointless 'why' questions...


-Cod3r
 

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they don't want to hurt your feelings.
 

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The better I know women, the more I see that anxiety dominates what they do. One day of not calling is NOTHING. That's no signal. But, if she just said things straight up, she'd have to deal with being assertive with you, and that's anxious, just like we get approach anxiety for being assertive in that regard. If she says something straight up, her mind could go through all these scenarios of you getting upset, etc, even though they are far fetched. What she wanted was to be passive about the deal, and have it magically work out, just like being an AFC. Then her getting upset when you asked her about it, that's classical "passive-aggressive". Google on that term to get into the psychology of it.

What I'm saying to you is her actions don't make sense by themselves, until we factor in other crap like anxiety. What I'd recommend to you is to rise above it, don't fall into it. You dealt with her on the up and up. If she respectfully said she got a bf, you'd respect that. So, you can hold your head up about this. Too bad she addressed her anxieties more than you. But, now, you know where things stand. And, in the end, you have the option to approach other women, just like you always had.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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