"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Girls and their Drama - How to deal with it?

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So I've noticed that with every girlfriend I've had, there is always drama going on within their little group of female friends. I've learned to just stay out of it and go and do my own thing. And as long as she isn't complaining to me, then it's all good.
Recently I've started to get annoyed with my girlfriend and a few of her friends. They all hate this one girl because she supposedly is "fake, a biotch, steals money from them", and so forth. The other night my girlfriend, who never complains or gets mad, even when I kissed another girl one night drunk she handled it nicely, she complains to me that I was being nice to this girl that they all hate. The thing is, I'm a nice guy...I am genuinely one of the nicest guys you'll ever meet and she got mad at me for this. No yelling or anything, just a "what is wrong with you?" kind of thing.
So I'm just wondering, is it wrong to be nice to this girl? She hasn't done anything wrong to me. Or should I be mean just like this group of girls? How do you guys deal with drama with your girlfriends and their friends?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ugh.

You've been doing the right thing thus far.

Never enter into a chick's reality.

They want the drama, they want to cry, and scream and hate and b*tch at eachother until they're blue in the face, compete with eachother, etc and all that garbage so let them.

Continue being nice to this chick and be true to yourself in so doing.

If your girlfriend continues to get p*ssed off about it and uncomfortably in your face about it when you've done nothing wrong calmly instruct her that you have done nothing wrong so you will continue being nice to this person and if she continues giving you trouble that you don't deserve you will explain to her that you will not tolerate such disrespect in your relationship and that if she doesn't stop her whining at you then you can point her in the direction of the door.
 
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