Reservoir Dog
Don Juan
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I'm sorry that this doesn't fit in with your negative world view of women but I can't help that.klein said:Yah. No way that could have been calculated. Maybe you are a troll.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I'm sorry that this doesn't fit in with your negative world view of women but I can't help that.klein said:Yah. No way that could have been calculated. Maybe you are a troll.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Doesn't add up. What girl doesn't check her phone for an hour and a half, and then upon noticing not realize you were obviously there the whole time. In her mind it would be pretty far fetched for you to somehow not notice (or even hear) a call on your phone going on for an hour and a half.Reservoir Dog said:Anyway, I keep listening but I stop answering and she thinks I've hung up. And so she must think our phones are disconnected because I listen for the next hour and a half whilst her phone is still switched on.
She has two phones. The one she called me from was her work one. I have been thinking that she did leave her phone connected on purpose. She certainly did go on about me almost constantly. But seriously, just how f@cked up would she have to be if that were true? Why go to all that trouble just to cover up a lie? Unless she's a compulsive liar. Or a chronic game player.Yewki said:Doesn't add up. What girl doesn't check her phone for an hour and a half, and then upon noticing not realize you were obviously there the whole time. In her mind it would be pretty far fetched for you to somehow not notice (or even hear) a call on your phone going on for an hour and a half.
I would have been furiousReservoir Dog said:my gfriend was in the kitchen on the phone. She has another phone which she left on the bed. I decided to go through it and the first convo was with a guy who was asking if she was single and she told him she was and that she didn't have time for a man and asked him if he was single to which he said yes and she asked him why he was still single yo which he said cos I want you to which she lol'd.
The last message was from her to him saying I need to see you. When I confronted her with them she reasoned that he was a cousins friend or something, that there had been something and then she said there wasn't. She said she wasn't interested in him though he was interested in her and that he was just joker. Anyway I decided to believe her as the convo wasn't sexual or anything nor were any kisses blown by her to him. She says she loves me and only me and only has eyes for me. I believe her. What do you think?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Suspens said:She needed closure. Now she will gradually disappear.
Lol. Well then that's a different story .Reservoir Dog said:Apparently she needed my c0ck but I can deal with closure.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.