good one!
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Girlfriend's Ex wants to take my GF and I out to dinner
- Thread starter Zontyy
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Dash Riprock
Master Don Juan
I'd agree with this. It would be a MUCH bigger flag if she wanted to meet him for dinner without you.
Agree to go and be open and friendly during conversation. If you can, ask him some questions first to establish yourself and the "leader" and go from there. Maintain good eye contact and posture throughout the dinner. Then, when enough time has been spent, YOU state when it's time to go.
I had an ex years ago who was tight with her ex husband. I knew the guy from the gym before I started dating her. He was about as anti-Dash as you can get; big pot smoker, non athletic, sensitive musician, didn't like sports or outdoor activities, on and on. But he was friendly and really funny. I was ok with him coming to our parties, etc.
If you agree to the dinner and take charge of things, all will be good. Tell your gf she will owe you BIG after this; like a threesome with (fill in hot chick name) or she can take you to the Super Bowl.
Good luck.
CAPSLOCK BANDIT
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You can go, you just remain postured at all times and keep your interactions very brief, still please and thank you, but 5-6 words and otherwise remain silent. Silence is the answer in times of conflict or anxiety.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
True. There is a such thing as real friends. He won't be in competition with you or show envy. He'd be happy for her if she got a good man.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Agree. I have zero desire to meet any strange guy, especially the ex bf of the girl im seeing. Just say no. Who cares if she doesn't like it. The point is you don't like it.
flowtheory
Master Don Juan
Id first want to know why she is so keen to have the dinner out together?
Because he’s the same guy who still wanted to be involved sexually during that proposed threesome.
Because he’s the same guy who still wanted to be involved sexually during that proposed threesome.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
If it rub you the wrong way dont do it
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
All females don't require "tolerance " to be around. Some are good to be around.
Zontyy
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I think it boils down to she just wants her daughter's father to play an active role in her life to some degree. Anyways I told her I didn't like the idea of some guy trying to throw shade but I'm okay with dinner and that she would owe me big time. She laughed and said that it wasn't some **** measuring contest and if it were that I won by a long shot in all departments. Nothing in the end happened he never got back to us with his "grand plans" it was more of a forget thing. We were so busy running around and I randomly ran into a cousin and uncle that were in the area. She got mad jealous of my cousin and has always been, just this morning she was accusing me of ****ing my cousin. and said she had bad dreams of all these women texting me and then being in a sex club.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.