Girlfriend staying over at a guy's place

[EFFORT]

The "time period" will turn out to be a lot longer than you think. Once Dec 15th comes around it'll get pushed back more and more.

 

[acehole]

dude youre getting played? Anyways she probably used to fvck this dude or something or still does. Why else wouldn't you be able to go over there? Youre sh1t is done, no girl that had high interest would be like oh hey im staying at this guys house but he has a gf and you can't stay over ever. Seriously she is fvcking this dude or has or will. either way tell her she can do whatever she wants but if she does youre done with her. No guy in their right mind would allow this to happen to matter what.

 

[zekko]

either way tell her she can do whatever she wants but if she does youre done with her. No guy in their right mind would allow this to happen to matter what.

She may even be secretly hoping for this ultimatum so she can sleep with this guy without any guilt attached. I know there are different schools of thought about this sort of thing, but to me her even bringing it up is a huge red flag that would disqualify her with me. I wouldn't put up with it.

 

[acehole]

yea chicks rational things so they wont feel guilt. Any updates?

 

[Zoltan_The_Bold]

M8 what happened in the end?

 

[guitaronfire411]

My bad. She knew I disliked the idea of her staying at this older man's place so she then staying with a family and didn't stay at this other guy's place. Although I have just posted the latest issue which is related to this thread.

(I don't post often here but lurk the forums sometimes.)

 

[yuppaz]

She was going to f*ck this guy too. You girlfriend is using you like crazy and is cheating on you ....probably a whole lot. Kick her ass to the curb NOW!

 

[Single4Life]

Break up with her. It's done. it's over. Relationships done.

The icing on the cake is that you aren't allowed to come over. HAHAHAHAHAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

They aren't just friends. She wants to screw him. Maybe they already are. She should have exhausted every option with you first.

 

[nightcrawler]

My girlfriend is moving out at the end of this month because she found a better place and her room-mate is driving her crazy. Case in point: The room-mate lives in the adjacent room with her mother and acts as if she's the landlord, saying that my gf stays up too late (beyond 10PM) and plays movies/music after that time.

To make a story short, she needed to find somewhere to stay before the 15th of December and was going to stay with a female friend. Turns out the only person that could have her for a weekish is a guy friend who wants to meet me, and who she claims has a girlfriend.

She has said that I cannot stay over in the period that she is at this guy-friend's place. I told her straight up that I strongly dislike this idea of staying with a guy friend. My father says this is bad news, so does a friend who I consulted about this situation.

Any ideas? My father suggested that she stays with my grandmother instead but he doesn't like that idea too much.

Sorry to tell you, but you my friend, handled it like a pro beta male.

luckily for you, you're here so we'll make sure this doesn't happen again...or at least less often.

her : you can't come
you: why not?
her: cuz he doesn't wanna and its his place
you: why won't he let me stay i'm your bf
her: ****stupid female bull**** excuse"***
you: maybe he wants u there by yourself
her: ****more female bull*******
you: i thought u said he was dying to meet me
her: ****more more more female bull*******
you: so you're telling me that that guy doesn't want me, your bf, to come over and stay with u? wtf?

after that it's smooth sailing...combination of making her feel guilty, instigations of her liking the guy and being a slut, fear of a break up, guy might be a rapist/murderer, you looking alpha and ****...etc.

 

[Konada]

Great advice guys. However I don't think the dude has been waiting on for answers for 2 years.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Great advice guys. However I don't think the dude has been waiting on for answers for 2 years.

LOL! The OP brought this thread back from the dead himself. If you go over to the MM forum you will see he made a new post there.

This chick is bad news, but the OP has a lot of work to do on himself since he clearly doesn't respect himself and will take the first girl that gives him attention.

Its a learning phase, one that we all go through; learn your value as a man, keep improving your stance in life and these demon women won't have a shot at ruining your life.

The fact that he has been putting up with this $hit since 2009ish is beyond me.







PIMP

 

[perseverance]

If my girl slept around another man's house or even suggested she sleeps around another man's house, from then on she's no longer my girl. She'll never see me again.

 

[Atom Smasher]

When I first started reading this thread I was utterly flabbergasted by the naivete of some of the posters, the ones who said "You're making a big deal out of nothing" and "What's the problem?".

No girl I've ever had a relationship with would ever dream of asking me such a question. It should be obvious what was going on at the time, and almost unbelievably some of you were clueless when the thread first appeared. Now we have the other newer thread in MM showing you exactly what was going on.

Making a big deal out of nothing? I can't imagine being this naieve as a man. You guys who advised him this way shock me with your naivete.

 

[zekko]

When I first started reading this thread I was utterly flabbergasted by the naivete of some of the posters, the ones who said "You're making a big deal out of nothing" and "What's the problem?".

Women have brainwashed guys into thinking they must allow them to have their "male friends", or else they are jealous, possessive, and insecure. Just the right buttons to push, because what man wants to be those things?

The other batch of guys who don't object are looking to screw around themselves, and this makes it easy for them.

 

[Poonani Maker]

If you were spinning plates behind this hoe's back, then you'd not care one iota if she were to just, all of a sudden, die. I mean, diversify, diversify.

 

[loveorlust]

First off, sorry to hear about this problem, I know it's probably causing a lot of stress for you - but don't worry about it too much. If she's the type that will cheat on you with a friend, then treat her like the slut that she is. Also, this guy may just be a friend to her. If so, you should have nothing to worry about. My advice is to just meet the guy. If he's very good looking or charming or seems like an ass, then (AND ONLY THEN) should you have reason to worry. Good luck and all the best to you.

 

[guitaronfire411]

Hot damn. Surprised this thread still exists!

The guy in question was one of her first friends and a coworker at her old job when she originally moved here.

Some people wanted to know what happened so I'll write this. The girl said that it was a huge mistake and she only stayed over that one time. She hasn't gone over there ever after since I had made her feel superbad about the whole deal. She scolded the guy saying that she didn't need him as she has me as her sole protector. I was there when that happened. The guy was calling her a few months ago in the summer but got incensed when he found out that she wasn't single. She also told me that whenever she mentioned me in the past, he would get very angry (and likely jealous) that she was still in love with me. That is it.

 

[Scars]

Thanks for the update.

Long story short, women with high interest don't agree to live with some dude a lone. The whole "I can't find another place", just seems like a big pile of stinky bullsh!t to me.

-Scars

 

[guitaronfire411]

Nonono. I am not sure why people are thinking of that since she never wanted to live with him.

The guy offered to have her live with him but mentioned that I would not like it. I once asked her if she would ever take him up but she said that he was weird and a 'desperate and lonely old guy' ... 'with no friends'.

I made it clear that she isn't allowed to go over there because he has non-friendly intentions. I did say he could come over to her place as long as I, or other people are there as well. She agreed to this and said she won't go over there anymore.