Manofrefinedtastes
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Trust, yes. Respect, no.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Girlfriend seems to have "wandering eyes"
- Thread starter randalljohnson
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
randalljohnson
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Hey, all
Here to give an update on my situation. Things have been good as of late. Im still a bit puzzled why I still occasionally see her Liking other guys pictures. I notice her Liking one of her guy "friends" pics (whom I have a feeling she used to sleep with) as well as these 2 other local dudes who I dont think she's even met before. She seems to Like pretty much every selfie they post. And she re-added her former "best friend" who she used to bang, who screwed her over about a year ago. And her re-following one of her exes from a few years ago, also puzzled me. Especially considering his instagram looks barren, he hardly has anything on there. He hasnt posted in a year.
Aside from those insecurities, things seem good lately. She seems to be a bit more "showy" of me. Flaunting me more to the world; posting more about me on fb, uploading pics of us and our kids, etc. I know that she values me. I do alot for her. When she needs something, Im usually there on time to help. That's something that she's very not used to. Her past couple exes didn't do that kind of stuff for her. For example, a couple days ago she got locked out of her apartment and I came over and took out the window so that I could unlock the door for her. She took a pic of me climbing through her window and posted it on fb and praised me for it and said "thank god for him" (lol)
Just recently I noticed her and my mother became friends on facebook. Don't you all view that as a sign of commitment? If she planned on ditching me, why would she be adding my mother? Im not sure if she requested my mother or if my mother requested her. With our kids getting along so well, her adding my mother, etc, arent these signs of commitment?
Here to give an update on my situation. Things have been good as of late. Im still a bit puzzled why I still occasionally see her Liking other guys pictures. I notice her Liking one of her guy "friends" pics (whom I have a feeling she used to sleep with) as well as these 2 other local dudes who I dont think she's even met before. She seems to Like pretty much every selfie they post. And she re-added her former "best friend" who she used to bang, who screwed her over about a year ago. And her re-following one of her exes from a few years ago, also puzzled me. Especially considering his instagram looks barren, he hardly has anything on there. He hasnt posted in a year.
Aside from those insecurities, things seem good lately. She seems to be a bit more "showy" of me. Flaunting me more to the world; posting more about me on fb, uploading pics of us and our kids, etc. I know that she values me. I do alot for her. When she needs something, Im usually there on time to help. That's something that she's very not used to. Her past couple exes didn't do that kind of stuff for her. For example, a couple days ago she got locked out of her apartment and I came over and took out the window so that I could unlock the door for her. She took a pic of me climbing through her window and posted it on fb and praised me for it and said "thank god for him" (lol)
Just recently I noticed her and my mother became friends on facebook. Don't you all view that as a sign of commitment? If she planned on ditching me, why would she be adding my mother? Im not sure if she requested my mother or if my mother requested her. With our kids getting along so well, her adding my mother, etc, arent these signs of commitment?
narcissist
Master Don Juan
A multiplicity of red flags. The sheer amount of red flags that she's displaying is staggering. And when this blows up in your face, it will be your fault for being willingly blind, ignorant, and hopelessly naive.
randalljohnson
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Are you saying that solely based on my OP or did u read my update I posted today? (One comment above your comment)
narcissist
Master Don Juan
I read it all, knowingly at the potential peril of my personal comfort and good mood. Fortunately, I did not succumb to affective ruin.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
randalljohnson
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Really?
sazc
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I'm shocked and chagrined and not in a place to comment. OP......Dude....Bottom line is you should be feeling secure, and you are not. That's no bueno.
Loving reading this. OP you should listen, but you only want to defend and justify. Good luck
Loving reading this. OP you should listen, but you only want to defend and justify. Good luck