Manofrefinedtastes
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Trust, yes. Respect, no.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Girlfriend seems to have "wandering eyes"
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
randalljohnson
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Hey, all
Here to give an update on my situation. Things have been good as of late. Im still a bit puzzled why I still occasionally see her Liking other guys pictures. I notice her Liking one of her guy "friends" pics (whom I have a feeling she used to sleep with) as well as these 2 other local dudes who I dont think she's even met before. She seems to Like pretty much every selfie they post. And she re-added her former "best friend" who she used to bang, who screwed her over about a year ago. And her re-following one of her exes from a few years ago, also puzzled me. Especially considering his instagram looks barren, he hardly has anything on there. He hasnt posted in a year.
Aside from those insecurities, things seem good lately. She seems to be a bit more "showy" of me. Flaunting me more to the world; posting more about me on fb, uploading pics of us and our kids, etc. I know that she values me. I do alot for her. When she needs something, Im usually there on time to help. That's something that she's very not used to. Her past couple exes didn't do that kind of stuff for her. For example, a couple days ago she got locked out of her apartment and I came over and took out the window so that I could unlock the door for her. She took a pic of me climbing through her window and posted it on fb and praised me for it and said "thank god for him" (lol)
Just recently I noticed her and my mother became friends on facebook. Don't you all view that as a sign of commitment? If she planned on ditching me, why would she be adding my mother? Im not sure if she requested my mother or if my mother requested her. With our kids getting along so well, her adding my mother, etc, arent these signs of commitment?
Here to give an update on my situation. Things have been good as of late. Im still a bit puzzled why I still occasionally see her Liking other guys pictures. I notice her Liking one of her guy "friends" pics (whom I have a feeling she used to sleep with) as well as these 2 other local dudes who I dont think she's even met before. She seems to Like pretty much every selfie they post. And she re-added her former "best friend" who she used to bang, who screwed her over about a year ago. And her re-following one of her exes from a few years ago, also puzzled me. Especially considering his instagram looks barren, he hardly has anything on there. He hasnt posted in a year.
Aside from those insecurities, things seem good lately. She seems to be a bit more "showy" of me. Flaunting me more to the world; posting more about me on fb, uploading pics of us and our kids, etc. I know that she values me. I do alot for her. When she needs something, Im usually there on time to help. That's something that she's very not used to. Her past couple exes didn't do that kind of stuff for her. For example, a couple days ago she got locked out of her apartment and I came over and took out the window so that I could unlock the door for her. She took a pic of me climbing through her window and posted it on fb and praised me for it and said "thank god for him" (lol)
Just recently I noticed her and my mother became friends on facebook. Don't you all view that as a sign of commitment? If she planned on ditching me, why would she be adding my mother? Im not sure if she requested my mother or if my mother requested her. With our kids getting along so well, her adding my mother, etc, arent these signs of commitment?
narcissist
Master Don Juan
A multiplicity of red flags. The sheer amount of red flags that she's displaying is staggering. And when this blows up in your face, it will be your fault for being willingly blind, ignorant, and hopelessly naive.
randalljohnson
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Are you saying that solely based on my OP or did u read my update I posted today? (One comment above your comment)
narcissist
Master Don Juan
I read it all, knowingly at the potential peril of my personal comfort and good mood. Fortunately, I did not succumb to affective ruin.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
randalljohnson
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Really?
sazc
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I'm shocked and chagrined and not in a place to comment. OP......Dude....Bottom line is you should be feeling secure, and you are not. That's no bueno.
Loving reading this. OP you should listen, but you only want to defend and justify. Good luck
Loving reading this. OP you should listen, but you only want to defend and justify. Good luck