"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Girlfriend push pulling

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Hi guys so recently my girlfriend has been acting a little odd Lulz... says she loves me buys lots of gifts for me etc: but she's starting to use the push pull technique on me.. now I handle this s**t really well.. I haven't been chasing her or anything. And will continue do so if she doesn't pull her head in. Can anyone just give me some tips to help me along the way??
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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@sazc unfortunately yes.. she might be BPD. I don't know how I've improved myself greatly since coming here and listening to all the awesome advice been 3 years now I think
 
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@LARaiders85 you don't have to believe me it doesn't bother me. But I will not sit here and be accused of being a troll when I'm not. I've been a active member here for a few years and a contributing one. Oh did I forget to mention I only seem to attract BPDs as me and @sazc we're conversating about. Does that answer your question? Have you ever dated one? Do you not know that they move very fast? Or do you have no experience on the matter and jump the gun as soon as you think you clue on to something? Jeez I'd hate to be your girlfriend lol.. and don't take this as offensive I'm not trying to offend you just make you see it clearly from the right angle :)
 

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@LARaiders85 i was actually going to ask you that? Why do i do it over and over again when I know I'm just going to get the same result? It's like I'm meeting the same damn person in a different body? I'm starting to think I'm BPD myself
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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@LARaiders85 your known for giving very good advice on sosauve and I admire that. I really dig deep into your answers because I learn alot from your wisdom. So I kinda got excited and relieved when I received your notification.... only to find I was being called a troll.. now that was disappointing.
 

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@LARaiders85 I was molested when I was younger would that cause BPD? Anyways enough about me I think we both found the answer to that question together. So perhaps you could answer my original question together? It would make my day.
 

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Whaaaat...?

First off... there's a lot of "Oh she's BPD oh she's ABC" goin' on on this forum. My question is how tf do you mofos know who's got what disorder. Simply because they seem to do this or that. It's like WebMD for personality disorders over here. Everyone's got everything lmao. But hey... maybe you're right. Idk sh!t about disorders so I'll leave it up to you guys.

@niceguytoalphamale breh... you should've kept that one to yourself. Some things are just better left unsaid, you know? It's not too late to edit that there comment. Also, the DJ status on your profile means nothing... it's just a gold star sticker you get from posting a certain number of times.

Anyways, to your original post... there's not much to say. She's playing games. You're good at not playing her games. Keep doing that. Don't get attached. I don't suspect that a girl who actually wanted to be your girlfriend would be playing games. Maybe you're misinterpreting because sometimes she responds a little slow because she has stuff to do? Iono mane. Ride the wave, bail if it starts crashing. Situation doesn't sound that serious.
 

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Anyways, to your original post... there's not much to say. She's playing games. You're good at not playing her games. Keep doing that. Don't get attached. I don't suspect that a girl who actually wanted to be your girlfriend would be playing games. Maybe you're misinterpreting because sometimes she responds a little slow because she has stuff to do? Iono mane. Ride the wave, bail if it starts crashing. Situation doesn't sound that serious.
I like this thinking.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Stop feeding the trolls or you’re gonna get another spaz with 6,000 posts in less than a year

The more you respond to their attention wh0ring the more you encourage them and take away help that can be benefitting real posters.

So tired of what they’re turning this place into.. I’m sure we’re all getting tired of being trolled by sloots in real life then we come here to get trolled some more by either fake or argumentative posters.
 
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