So i have been dating my girlfriend for about 5 months now. I have known her for over a year now. Three of those months we have been bf/gf. This is her first REAL relationship.
In the early stages things were good. But i noticed that she had trouble opening up emotionally to me. During social outings with friends, i noticed that she isnt the social butterfly i thought she was. She isnt the type to initiate conversations with myself or other people. But she can blab on if someone else initiates At first i thought it was a trust issue, but months later i realize its just her. She might be shy in new social situations but she is just the opposite with her close friends.
Back to the main issue i am having, because of this conversations with her are one sided: initiated by me. I am asking all the open ended questions hoping to have her talk more about her feelings on a particular topic but its usually left dead short. what bothers me is that even though she cares about me, its seems hard for her to express her feelings or opinion on important things.
i am pretty sure the problem is that she doesnt know how to open up to talk. it sounds a problem an AFC would have early on in the learning process. she might be scared to do so...or maybe just doesnt know how.
what can i do to reinforce her confidence or show her how to open up?
thanks ahead of time.
In the early stages things were good. But i noticed that she had trouble opening up emotionally to me. During social outings with friends, i noticed that she isnt the social butterfly i thought she was. She isnt the type to initiate conversations with myself or other people. But she can blab on if someone else initiates At first i thought it was a trust issue, but months later i realize its just her. She might be shy in new social situations but she is just the opposite with her close friends.
Back to the main issue i am having, because of this conversations with her are one sided: initiated by me. I am asking all the open ended questions hoping to have her talk more about her feelings on a particular topic but its usually left dead short. what bothers me is that even though she cares about me, its seems hard for her to express her feelings or opinion on important things.
i am pretty sure the problem is that she doesnt know how to open up to talk. it sounds a problem an AFC would have early on in the learning process. she might be scared to do so...or maybe just doesnt know how.
what can i do to reinforce her confidence or show her how to open up?
thanks ahead of time.
