Hello Friend,

If this is your first visit to SoSuave, I would advise you to START HERE.

It will be the most efficient use of your time.

And you will learn everything you need to know to become a huge success with women.

Thank you for visiting and have a great day!

Girlfriend is friends with another guy. Shlts me.

I.A.F.Y.B.

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Communication is always good for a relationship. Don't hold things back..

Hopefully, this talk helped your relationship. But, there is some signs that arent good. Watch your back bro...

Anyways, its Friday night. I hope your not stuck at home while she went out with her friend.
 

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lordson said:
so i did have a talk with her. hard to describe it here, but it went well, i expressed how i feel and it didn't lead to the i want you to see him less. she reassured me of her feelings and the fact that she isn't stupid and can see how how looks, but i needn't worry. those arn't quotes, just the gist of it. I tried to come across as unhappy but not too insecure so she doesn't think she has the upper hand. So in the end we understand each other better now and our relationship is stronger because of it. I just learned that its much better to express your feelings than bottle it up inside.

cheers fellas, most of you guys were pretty right
Jolly good, she reassured him of her feelings.

Next week it'll be straight back to the regular programme for her.
 

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cw92 said:
is she still going to see those guy "friends" of hers?

if you can't even meet them then somethings up, no matter what she says, it just sounds so shady.
Bingo. Judge her on her actions, not her words. Do her actions continue to give you that bad vibe that caused this thread in the first place? Then there you go.
 

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I think you should introduce me to your girl friend lordson. I'll **** her for you.
 
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iambrian81 said:
I think you should introduce me to your girl friend lordson. I'll **** her for you.
I'm pretty sure she already has a fvck buddy, pal. Get in line.
 

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"In any relationship, the person with the most power is the one who needs the other the least."

Read the quote above Lordson.

I don't know if your girl is cheating on you.

What I do know is that she control's this relationship and where she goes, you follow.

It is why when you start a relationship with a woman, you may at first seem to be the man in charge but in the long run if you don't pass her sh1t tests then the woman takes over and does whatever she pleases. How do you pass a woman's sh1t test? by refusing to be tested in the first place and not "compromising" when you know you aren't going be pleased with the outcome. If that means the end of the relationship so be it.

You are not happy for a reason, you don't have the power or the balls to set things straight(you know it and she knows it). It might be too late to change things now and you did yourself no service by coming up from a position of weakness and telling her that you need to see her more while expressing your frustrations (its not words that you convey to a woman but its your actions that makes a woman want to spend time with you rather then being told she has too).

"You cannot negotiate attraction"

By the sounds of things I don't know why you want to marry her because it sounds like you are already married to her! You have pretty much described the typical marriage scenerio that is out there to most people: Wife does whatever she wants and leaves the husband at home while she parties with her friends, and he is happy if he gets to lay her once a week (by the way dude you shouldn't be happy if you get it only once a week).
 

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TyTe`EyEz said:
I'm pretty sure she already has a fvck buddy, pal. Get in line.
The problem is that her **** buddy does it behind his back, which isnt as funny.

Now what i would've done is **** her, video tape it, and post in this thread as a warning to all afc. Also as an award prize to lordson as the biggest fricking afc in sosuave right next to luke skywalker.
 

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The man will do what he wants to do, he's already to far invested in her emotionally to give her up. I've been on both sides of the fence when it comes to women, and it's always the same scenerio again and again. The excuses, actions, reasons not one situation is unique. Just like your situation isn't unique. Everybody thats tellin you what you should do knows this fact.

They dont even have to think about the advice to give when they read a post like this, it's just gut instinct. Thats how played out this type of stuff is.
 

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This guy is AFC and has a 1-oites (spelling)

He is not listening to any of the advice, even though its clear that the girl is the boss in the relationship and prolly flucking few other guys.
 

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I predict one day, lordson will be raising other men's children lol. Complete afc chode at home, raising the kid while wify out getting **** by other men. Then she comes home with a belly full of other men's seed. Then once a month, if he pleases her enough, she'll let him **** her while she dream of other men. The sex completely lack any kind of passion...until the next day when she go out with her friend and get **** by alpha males.

Hahahaha
 

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iambrian81 said:
I predict one day, lordson will be raising other men's children lol. Complete afc chode at home, raising the kid while wify out getting **** by other men. Then she comes home with a belly full of other men's seed. Then once a month, if he pleases her enough, she'll let him **** her while she dream of other men. The sex completely lack any kind of passion...until the next day when she go out with her friend and get **** by alpha males.

Hahahaha

seriously?? whats your problem. why the hell are you here at all? you dont know me or my gf and you keep saying over and over shes f'ing some other guy

this isn't constructive. you're just a frustrated little worm. my future is bright and you can keep on posting here whilst i drvive my bmw down the street with my hot wife. get a life dlckhole

thanks to everybody else who was more understanding. i'm sure most of you understand how hard a 3 yr relationship and dynamic is to decribe on the internet.
 

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lordson said:
seriously?? whats your problem. why the hell are you here at all? you dont know me or my gf and you keep saying over and over shes f'ing some other guy

this isn't constructive. you're just a frustrated little worm. my future is bright and you can keep on posting here whilst i drvive my bmw down the street with my hot wife. get a life dlckhole

thanks to everybody else who was more understanding. i'm sure most of you understand how hard a 3 yr relationship and dynamic is to decribe on the internet.
The sad thing is, is that he's right.

And you have a BMW, so I'm assuming you're rich... which also adds another factor that I didn't factor in before to the equation. I'd hate to say it, but the way she treats you from what you've described sounds like she's hanging around you for your checking account and while your away at work 5/7 days, she's hooking up with other guys while she enjoys all of the money she gets by staying with you.

Your future is bright, yes, but not with that abusive *****. Again, you don't deserve to be used like that.


It doesn't matter if the relationship was 10 years old; the same signs of an unfaithful spouse are all there.
 

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You need to ask yourself whether this is acceptable. To me it's not.

But there's no point in trying to change her. The best policy is to simply move on.
 

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Brighty said:
The sad thing is, is that he's right.

And you have a BMW, so I'm assuming you're rich... which also adds another factor that I didn't factor in before to the equation. I'd hate to say it, but the way she treats you from what you've described sounds like she's hanging around you for your checking account and while your away at work 5/7 days, she's hooking up with other guys while she enjoys all of the money she gets by staying with you.

Your future is bright, yes, but not with that abusive *****. Again, you don't deserve to be used like that.


It doesn't matter if the relationship was 10 years old; the same signs of an unfaithful spouse are all there.
I took it as him projecting the future situation as he referred to her as his wife, as in the kind of projection like...

"I'll get the last laugh when I win the lotto and have a Ferarri and supermodel wife! You'll get what you have coming for picking on me all those years in high school you mean bully!"

That's how he came off in that post anyway.
 
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This can't be serious. Nobody can be this delusional. lordson has to be an attention wh0re.
 

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Well lordson, so how many guys did your gf cheat on you yet?

2-3, or 4-9? Dont worry man, we're non judgemental about this. It's just that it would make a great story for a pornsite imo.
 

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I don't know if this b1tch is cheating our not, but the bottom line from what i her you say is that she is not treating you right or respecting you at all

"Waaa waaa waa, you don't give me freedoms!!"

b1tch please. all you want to do is spend more time with her and go and enjoy a night out with her and this is how she replies?

this sounds shady pal, almost like it's something she doesn't want you to see or findout

Don't just cave into her to make the relationship better. Express how you feel. you don't like it and want it changed.

She's not being a very good wife right now. not someone i'd want to marry
 

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Reach between your legs-FEEL a PAIR? Act like you got 'em. She's not making you happy,kiss her good by. I was Married for 14 years-dated her for 18 months before that,have 2 sons with her etc. SO I don't want to hear any of this "you don't know the LTR we have BS" 3 years? we were still on our honeymoon! SHE won'tlet you meet her friends? I met all of my wifes co-workers,friends etc. Don't dive on her, you are giving one of her friends a BJ by proxy.
 
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