"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Girlfriend Is Behaving Distant?

MT93

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Don't you guys think, blocking her on Whatsapp, may come across to her as me being seriously butt hurt?

I mean I actually agree with the breakup.. I was a dumb ass for investing in a woman I cannot be with for years..

So why not just let her text me if she dicedes to, and I just ignore her.

I don't have on any other social media at all.. I don't use Facebook or Instagram etc etc.

Hmm realistically, you shouldn't care how it looks to her, she is dead, ghost, nada.

But I sympathise and understand what you are saying, personally I would delete her number, therefore you have no desire to contact her, if she contacts you, well then she is operating in your frame and you can choose to ignore etc etc.

My thoughts.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Roober

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I sense a bit of ego preservation here and I would recommend you look at what led you to spend 2 years in an LDR with a supposed low quality woman. These qualities dont just miraculously show up one day, they are inherent parts of a persons character that we often choose to ignore.

I wouldnt write her off as garbage without throwing yourself in the mix. You spent a significant amount of time with this woman, which is a strong reflection of your character as well.
 

ubercat

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What I don't get man is why you can't find better local options. A ldr with a single lady is tough but doable. She might decide to move I sure as hell wouldn't move for her.

But one with the kid and ex in the picture. Total suicide run. U been here for a while mate you've got to be smarter than that. now if it was just some fun and games and you like to travel occasionally sure. but you keep saying relationship. It just seems like you keep putting yourself in harm's way.
 

soulforge

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What I don't get man is why you can't find better local options. A ldr with a single lady is tough but doable. She might decide to move I sure as hell wouldn't move for her.

But one with the kid and ex in the picture. Total suicide run. U been here for a while mate you've got to be smarter than that. now if it was just some fun and games and you like to travel occasionally sure. but you keep saying relationship. It just seems like you keep putting yourself in harm's way.

Well it kinda worked for me for a while, the distance.. However for a committed relationship, LDR is a waste of time.

Lesson learned.
 

ubercat

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Mate you are cherry picking from the replies to protect your ego. LDR is the smaller part. You're obviously relationship oriented. Why do you keep picking woman it's unlikely to work out with?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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