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AJ84
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Isn’t this the girlfriend of 8 months you posted about two weeks ago? The one who wanted to go to Amsterdam? You were ticked off at that.So here's the thing; My girlfriend of 1 year is heading away for 5 weeks this summer. She's in nursing school and is going on a 3 week international placement to work in a hospital with other healthcare professionals. She asked me if i was happy with it before confirming she would go, and I said yes. Then, yesterday, she dropped it on me that 'by the way, it's right after I come back from that cruise'. She's going on a cruise for 2 weeks with her grandparents before, and it just happens that as the dates fall she will get back from the cruise and go on this international placement, making the whole time away 5 weeks.
Now, we live 55 miles apart, and make it work very well. I drive over to her almost weekly and stay for a couple of days. so despite the distance it all works out. However, these 5 weeks is the only time throughout the whole year when she has that much time off, and I was expecting that we would use that time to do lots of stuff because I have the same dates off law school.
It seems to me that she's kind of booked up all her time off without regard for me. I've been turning down summer placements at law practices purely due to the fact that I knew it would eat into our time, because I can take them in the winter when we're both busy anyway.
We were talking today and she goes "I was trying not to complain to my friends without sounding like i'm bragging, summer's going to suck because..." I was expecting her to say "because we'll be apart for so long" but instead; "... because i'll be so tired".
Now she’s going on a trip with her family then going to away for a placement and you’re ticked off again.
It seems like you are both not on the same page about the relationship. You seem to have expectations that she either can’t or won’t fill, and I think your communication with her around this latest expectation is off, because you told her things were fine for her to go and now your complaining about it on this thread but have you talked to her about it directly?
What do you want this 21 yr old girl to sacrifice for you? Because that’s what you’re asking, really? The cruise or her three 3 week placement?
You have sacrificed placements for her, as you stated but was that because she asked to you? Or did you do it then expect her to want to do the same?
You’re both young, there will be many other girls after her. If her school, friends, and doing things with her family are more important to her than you, then perhaps it’s time to reconsider if she wants to be in a relationship at 21.