rsxtreme
Don Juan
Your in a new relationship and she decides to go clubbing from time to time. But when she does, she dances with other guys, but tells you about it or not.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Where are you during all of this? Why aren't you clubbing together?rsxtreme said:Your in a new relationship and she decides to go clubbing from time to time. But when she does, she dances with other guys, but tells you about it or not.
She usually goes with her girl cousins, some of which are married.Francisco d'Anconia said:Where are you during all of this? Why aren't you clubbing together?
What, her girl cousins hate your guts and will AMOG you all night? Geesh, why not go and have the attention of all of these women, talk about free social proof.rsxtreme said:She usually goes with her girl cousins, some of which are married.![]()
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Because women typically like to go out dancing and the only reason that she would meet guys is if her BF is a stick in the mud and wants to play it cheap and stay home, why wouldn't she meet guys who enjoy going clubbing like she does? How did she meet a dweeb like that anyway, definitely not at a club.. :crackup:Raikojo17 said:my question is, why would a girl in relationship need to go clubbing? the only reason to go is to meet guys. if they wanna have fun dancing then invited a couple of their gf's over and blast the stereo.
lol im jus saying fransico.Francisco d'Anconia said:Because women typically like to go out dancing and the only reason that she would meet guys is if her BF is a stick in the mud and wants to play it cheap and stay home, why wouldn't she meet guys who enjoy going clubbing like she does? How did she meet a dweeb like that anyway, definitely not at a club.. :crackup:
Raikojo17 said:my question is, why would a girl in relationship need to go clubbing? the only reason to go is to meet guys. if they wanna have fun dancing then invited a couple of their gf's over and blast the stereo.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Raikojo17 said:lol im jus saying fransico.
you typically go to the club to have fun...with the opposite sex. if your happy in a relationship then you wouldnt need the attention and validation from other guys.
if you both enjoy clubbing then that's another story. then you can go together. but if your girls wants to go clubbing all the time and not with you, then you got the wrong girl and somethings not right in that relationship
If ive been with her for 6 months or under then i wouldnt care because it shows shes just another attention slvt and feels the need to grind other guys. If ive been with her for a 1 year or more, id wonder why she wants to go when she KNOWS guys go to clubs for one thing. If a girl tells u she wants to club for fun and go out with her girlfriends, she is telling you a bald face lie. If you, as her B/F accept that lie, then your the one whos going to get played. If you say "well, if shes going clubbing, then im going too" thats like playing a back and forth game of, i can grind other girls if u grind on guys. whats the relationship based on? a back and forth game? if the relationship is even that serious, a Girl should want to bring her B/F or she can do other things for fun without her B/F. EVERYONE knows what clubs are for. Guys + "Dancing" + drinks =rsxtreme said:Your in a new relationship and she decides to go clubbing from time to time. But when she does, she dances with other guys, but tells you about it or not.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Thats not a good mind set this day and age. You let her go to the club.. she gets drunk, sucks some dudes c0ck.. She tells you she didnt do anything wrong. your gonna believe what she says 100%? Your cant really break up with her because you dont know if she cheated or not. you have no clue as to what happened. on top of that, if she went with friends.. her friends will for sure lie for her as well. Women today try to get away with everything.. its just a matter of being a man and not being taken as a sucker.PRMoon said:Why would i care? Even if I weren't industry, i wouldn't give to sh*ts about my girlfriend going to a night club by herself or with friends. Worrying about stupid things like that is a major sign of insecurity of yourself and your relationship. If something did happen and your girl cheats on you or whatever, then you break up with her and find someone new. Not a tough concept from where I sit.
Agree with this.Obsidian said:if she's actually your "girlfriend," meaning you are exclusive, then yeah it oughta piss you off. And it's disrespectful for her to even suggest it. Next the hor.
How many places can a woman go where there are men who won't hit on her?Last Man Standing said:Here is the problem - men always approach women at the clubs so you know she will be constantly hit on -- and she knows this -- this is why she should respect her man and NOT go to clubs!!!
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.