"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Girlfriend dumped me "I need to focus on school, I rushed into this relationship"
- Thread starter DamnSon
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
QuadDeuces
Master Don Juan
Once you got back in the abundance mentality she'll come looking for you sooner or later.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
When your in abundance you look like you "struck gold". When you are in lack you look "starving" or "thirsty"...
I'm suppose to see the Ex tonight, half of me wants to half of me doesn't. It's like trusting a snake not to bite you again. I want to smash, but I also know it don't mean **** now. but whatever I'll bury my face in that ass still hahah, if she hits me with some "im a good girl" bull**** i'm leaving with the quickness.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
Master Don Juan
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Thatfeel21
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AhegaoMaker
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If he wants her, he wants her, period.
But really, man, you may want to take the carrot on a string approach to the matter, with you as the carrot.
That way, how much she wants you can truly be put to the test.
She will do anything, ANYTHING at all, if she really wants you, so make her work damn well for it and as a vengeance for her pulling that **** on you
then if op success, smash her so fvcking hard and make her ahegao so fvcking much that she might even forget her name and think of no one else but you.
After all, as any professional would say, it's not just about the size of the tool, but the skill of the one who uses it.
OP cant be a troll, im in the exact same situation and at the same point he is right now.
Thatfeel21
Senior Don Juan
OP has ZERO leverage. What are you talking about? Do u think she would do this to a guy she had REAL interest in?!
AhegaoMaker
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I'll borrow a quote on this matter
but again, tread with caution, as this is acknowledgeably risque territoryEmarrel said:
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Thatfeel21
Senior Don Juan
And if you look at my post history, I never dwell in one thread for too long. I'm only showing interest in OPS situation because ive BEEN in his shoes before and can relate.
Months after being removed from the situation, It hit me like a ton of bricks. Kept thinking, wow, she probably loved the attention I was giving her even though she wasn't even giving it up anymore. And she didnt have to. She knew that the mere thought of me fvcking her again was enough to fuel me givimg her loads of my time and attention.
Never again...that's the very definition of an unfair exchange. Smh...
-She's been reaching out daily, small bull**** talk. Lets go to the gym" but flakes when we make late night plans. I finally ask whats the deal here, I don't want to be your gym buddy, . I'm not trying to get married but I'm never going to be just a friend" She says "I'm trying to hang out, nothing serious, i like you and enjoy your company, I just want no pressure ya know"
I was like alright cool, so she just wants to ****, which is all it will ever be and I realized that.. except we ain't ****ing.. so what's the deal? She reaching out to me, when were together I get some play, but not all the way.
**** is driving me nuts. I'm at the crossroads, I know after the semester she disappears and ill probably never see her again, So.. I would like to one more time it at least, or at least have some moments for the semester. However, I can't deal with the wishy washy bull**** anymore. I know if play it cool and wait on the outside maybe the possibility..but I just want to tell her this is dead and go **** yourself... this ain't worth the daily stress
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
You have 3 choices.
1. Get rid of her
2. Stay and keep things exactly the same
3. Stay and play her harder than she's playing you
It's hard to play her when the interest low, I know if I go ghost she comes back but when she does it's the same **** again.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Have a bunch of stuff and almost no time for her. That'll keep her perked up. Flake on her 50% of the time.
**** it. Either outcome is a win honestly. she disappears I win- because it's a waste. She snaps out of it- it's a win kind of
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Maybe it's nothing to snap out of, maybe it's who she is. Since you were forefront and true it wasn't "exciting" for her or a "challenge" that's how some of them are.