"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girlfriend denied me *******

spax

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My girl game over. Was all good. We were making out in my bed lots. I got her bra off a couple times, I fingered her a bit, and we pretty much had make-out intervals. She played with my **** a bit with her hands, she did some more in the dark, so i pulled it out more and she rubbed it up and down.

Then I said "You wanna give me head?" and shes like "ummm", and then shes like "i....would..." and didnt finish the sentence, just kissed me more. Then im like "come on" and shes like "i dont know how..." and just focused on kissing me lots.


I was so ****ing pissed. My ego was crushed. :cuss:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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SinJester

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Dude settle the fck down your overeacting. Whys it a big deal? It's last minute resistance, you just didn't deal with it. She would have a reason, there are some girls that just don't give head. How would you like to suck a ****?
 

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How old is she?

If she honestly doesn't know how, maybe she's uneasy about it. I don't really see why your ego is crushed, it's not like she went near it and then said "ew I'm not sucking that tiny thing, it stinks!"

Try again some other time, assure her that its okay if she doesn't know how, you'll let her go at her own pace and teach her what you like.
 

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If she's young she likely doesn't know.

Chill the fvck out and focus on having her practice at it with a peeled banana until she becomes a pro and is ready for the real thing.

You could even of asked her to just lick it all over if she didn't know what to do.

For Christ sakes learn to improvise in these situations people!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Look at it from her point of view. Would you want a penis in your mouth? Not saying she shouldn't give you head, but if she doesn't want to, she doesn't want to, there's no need to take it personally.
 

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Haha, you shouldn't have asked her, rather flow with it.
Move her head towards it, if she starts to push back, than it's a problem. The trick is to guide her, she's young, and she probably doesn't know how to do it. As long as she is warmed up enough, she really loves you, and you guide her properly, there should be no objection.
 
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spax said:
My girl game over. Was all good. We were making out in my bed lots. I got her bra off a couple times, I fingered her a bit, and we pretty much had make-out intervals. She played with my **** a bit with her hands, she did some more in the dark, so i pulled it out more and she rubbed it up and down.

Then I said "You wanna give me head?" and shes like "ummm", and then shes like "i....would..." and didnt finish the sentence, just kissed me more. Then im like "come on" and shes like "i dont know how..." and just focused on kissing me lots.


I was so ****ing pissed. My ego was crushed. :cuss:
Don't feel too bad. Last week I was making out with a girl in my bed and I said "you wanna suck it a little?" and she said "do you have a condom?"

It caught me TOTALLY off guard I didn't know what to say. I was like

"a condom for that? don't worry baby i'm clean"

So I just dropped it got the condom and handled my business but no head.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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sex and such is great,but people too often exaggerate it and associate it with status.Have sex because you like sex,not cause it'll make you cool or boost your ego.That's afc thinking.Stay out of that territory.
 

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^ true

I just have one question... Why did you get her bra off a couple times? Did she keep putting it back on? wtf?
 

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DonAlan456 said:
whyd u ask her?
tell her
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you fuked up right there
she would , she only gave a lil resistance, should have said "well try, and see how you do"

learn to take control of the situation,

so many times a id be kissing a girl, i pull my **** out and tell them to suck it. they all say the same **** "i dont usually suck dik," "well suck mine then" "i dunno"
"just do it"

then they suck it and such a pro at it too. they dont like it but they will do it. lets put it that way
 

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She's probably just nervous or self-conscious that you won't like it if she did it or something. Maybe she's never done it before.

Sh!t, I studied the ins and outs of a vajj on the internet before I ever ate one or had sex. Haha
 

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your c0ck stinks
how about if I stick my c0ck up your mouth, the urine tastes pretty sweet cause I had some apple juice today too
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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