Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
And what makes you think she don't WANT you? Maybe she WOULDN'T out of respect for your girlfriend but she she does want to and under extreme circumstances she probably would.Originally posted by Brak86
dude, my best friends girlfriend told me I had a 10/10 body when she saw it. She has told me that my butt is cute and thati have pretty blue eyes. But she in now way wants me. I think you are fine.
Thank you. My thoughts exactly. Now, it might be different if analyzing women would actually get us somewhere, but I think we all know better than that!Originally posted by backbreaker
anyone ever stop to think that she may really just like the guy's eyes?
God DAMN you guys analyzie **** like women sometimes.. that's what women do.
Dude you have 2154 posts........................ you are here for a reason......... so don't knock a guy who's trying to figure out why his girl is complimenting other guys. And women are complex creatures... you of all people should know this. I doubt she is complimenting his friend just for the sake of complimenting him. I'm sure there is a reason why she is doing it right in front of his face.Originally posted by backbreaker
anyone ever stop to think that she may really just like the guy's eyes?
God DAMN you guys analyzie **** like women sometimes.. that's what women do.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.