"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Girlfriend complimented a buddy.

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I'm sorry about your loss. Thanx for the advice, that's stuff I do a lot on different occasions.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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haha this was a test, girls love to do this to guys, its like 1/2 trying to get you jealous, 1/2 trying to get you to notice her. After waiting for 15 meetings she was probably bored.

You should have responded with something like :

"they are adorable" in your worst Antonio Banderas accent.
 

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Yeah I agree that she's testing you. Girls know EXACTLY what they are doing even when they do stuff casually. She knows you heard her on the phone when she complimented that guys shoes. Now, I wish I could tell you WHY she's doing it.

Maybe she's trying to get your attention. Or maybe she's subtly letting you know that you better appreciate what you have cause there are other guys out there. You know your girl better than me so you can best answer this. Go with your gut. If you are seeing and feeling stuff going on then you are not imagining it.

Personally I never confront girls when they do things on purpose to get my attention. I either ignore it or do the same thing back to them. Next time one of her friends is around give her a compliment. Ask her if she's been hitting the gym lately cause her body is looking tight............... and see what your girl does. LOL fukk it, life is a game, might as well have some fun.
 

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Hehe, ok, let's say for the hell of it I compliment her buddy. I maybe use the same "I like your eyes" comment or any other compliment that I think of in the moment. I have a VERY strong feeling my girl is going to ask me later "what was that all about"? Now, do I come out and say "hey, you said the same thing to my buddy the other day" and kind of let her know I was doing that purposely, or is there a better answer for this? And knowing her, if I give her buddy any other compliment, she is going to come back with "well I just said I liked his eyes, I didn't talk about his body, that's way different." There's no way she would admit of something like that.
 

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I think you have to act like you never noticed her do anything. Just be like "What? I think your friend has nice eyes......... that's it". Keep on your poker face. If you reveal why you made that compliment you are going to come across as petty. As a guy you always want to seem like you don't give a shyt. And I don't mean to act like an assh0le or uncaring.............. but just that little things don't phase you.

Come on bro do it....................... just think, it'll be fun to see her reaction. Then come back and tell us. What's the worse that could happen............... at least you'll have a funny story.
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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anyone ever stop to think that she may really just like the guy's eyes?

God DAMN you guys analyzie **** like women sometimes.. that's what women do.

This is my golden rule of women...


IF YOUR WOMAN WANTS TO **** SOMEONE ELSE, SHE WILL DO IT, REGARDLESS OF THE SITUTATION SHE IS IN, AND IF SHE DOESN'T WANT YOU TO FIND OUT, YOU WON'T

And that's the truth.. so the **** what she complimented the guy on his eyes? It's not like she said "oh my gosh your c.ck looks so big and fat"

You know how many times my friends girls have complimented me on my house or car or clothes I have on? Does that secretly mean they want to **** me... :)eek: damn.. they just might, but nevertheless)

My EX or girls I talk to compliment my friends all the time... what's the harm in that? If she wants to **** em' go ahead... get a camera we can throw a party, tag team style

All these guys have luguna beach syndrome.. all, well not all but alot of guys sound like women with nutts, babbling like women at a hair salon "omg, my GF complimented my friends EYES.. OMG..she is soo going to suck him off"



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Okay.. so what.. let's say she does like him and is ****ing him RIGHT now?

What do you do?

Well I know what I would do and it wouldn't be cry over her.. if a girl ever ****ed my friend while she is with me, she is going ot have to do both of us if not all three of us at the same time, no questions asks, no if ands or buts.. you know she is a slut, treat her like she is screaming to be treated instead of going into ***** mode

I guess, what I am trying to say is.. the problem, even though it's not but if it was, is not that she might like your guy friend..

The problem is that, even if she did like your guy friend (which she doesn't).. WTF do you have to be MAD or SAD for?Set her out and replace her, or better yet, set her out and keep her on the side while you **** other women
 

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Originally posted by Brak86
dude, my best friends girlfriend told me I had a 10/10 body when she saw it. She has told me that my butt is cute and thati have pretty blue eyes. But she in now way wants me. I think you are fine.
And what makes you think she don't WANT you? Maybe she WOULDN'T out of respect for your girlfriend but she she does want to and under extreme circumstances she probably would.
 

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Originally posted by backbreaker
anyone ever stop to think that she may really just like the guy's eyes?

God DAMN you guys analyzie **** like women sometimes.. that's what women do.

Thank you. My thoughts exactly. Now, it might be different if analyzing women would actually get us somewhere, but I think we all know better than that!
 

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Originally posted by backbreaker
anyone ever stop to think that she may really just like the guy's eyes?

God DAMN you guys analyzie **** like women sometimes.. that's what women do.

Dude you have 2154 posts........................ you are here for a reason......... so don't knock a guy who's trying to figure out why his girl is complimenting other guys. And women are complex creatures... you of all people should know this. I doubt she is complimenting his friend just for the sake of complimenting him. I'm sure there is a reason why she is doing it right in front of his face.

Ease up a bit on the judgements. I was fair with you in your post when you spent 1,000 dollars in a strip club on a girl who didn't give you no play. So show the same courtesy to our fellow DJ here.
 

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I'd say she's doing it to make you jealous. Why? Who knows, but the fact that she's vocal about it in front of you (on what seems like a semi regular basis) counts for something.

A close friend of mine is living with a girl he's been with for about a year 1/2 to 2 years. Ever since I first met her I get subtle flirty vibes from her (some more obvious then others). Once we were at a restaurant and she rubs my forearm in front of him. Of course he looks at her like "wtf was that?" and she's all like "he has no hair on his arms" all innocently.

I think she does this partially because she has some interest in me and partially to make him jealous. She may even be doing it to see if she can get me to take the bait, I really don't know what her intentions are.

I'd ignore it, but at the same time I wouldn't hesitate to be more vocal about things I find attractive in other women. Just don't make it seem obvious that you're doing it purposefully, maybe she'll get a clue and stop doing it so much.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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