You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Under what condition's did you met her the first time,was she pissed?Originally posted by Okra
I just slept with a hot black chick last weekend (the same night I met her). We were hanging out again this weekend and she gave me very little eye contact and looked away (and in all kinds of directions) when I looked at her. She seemed like she was having a good time, but I'm just wondering what this behavior means.
please help
thanks in advance
-Okra
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
no because she talks about other plans and hints at having sex againOriginally posted by DonJuanMonk
Would you stop using /slashes/ for your posts?
Okra, she may be looking away/not giving you eye contact because it could be her way of not being interested in you.
You mentioned that she slept with you on the first night you met her. She could either be feeling shameful about the experience or that she just wanted this to be a one time deal. Anyways, the best thing I can recommend for this situation is to let her know you're gonna break things up, leave her, and don't talk to her.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.