You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Under what condition's did you met her the first time,was she pissed?Originally posted by Okra
I just slept with a hot black chick last weekend (the same night I met her). We were hanging out again this weekend and she gave me very little eye contact and looked away (and in all kinds of directions) when I looked at her. She seemed like she was having a good time, but I'm just wondering what this behavior means.
please help
thanks in advance
-Okra
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
no because she talks about other plans and hints at having sex againOriginally posted by DonJuanMonk
Would you stop using /slashes/ for your posts?
Okra, she may be looking away/not giving you eye contact because it could be her way of not being interested in you.
You mentioned that she slept with you on the first night you met her. She could either be feeling shameful about the experience or that she just wanted this to be a one time deal. Anyways, the best thing I can recommend for this situation is to let her know you're gonna break things up, leave her, and don't talk to her.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.