You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Under what condition's did you met her the first time,was she pissed?Originally posted by Okra
I just slept with a hot black chick last weekend (the same night I met her). We were hanging out again this weekend and she gave me very little eye contact and looked away (and in all kinds of directions) when I looked at her. She seemed like she was having a good time, but I'm just wondering what this behavior means.
please help
thanks in advance
-Okra
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
no because she talks about other plans and hints at having sex againOriginally posted by DonJuanMonk
Would you stop using /slashes/ for your posts?
Okra, she may be looking away/not giving you eye contact because it could be her way of not being interested in you.
You mentioned that she slept with you on the first night you met her. She could either be feeling shameful about the experience or that she just wanted this to be a one time deal. Anyways, the best thing I can recommend for this situation is to let her know you're gonna break things up, leave her, and don't talk to her.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.