WHat do I do? She just keeps texting me from outta nowhere. Should I try and make moves on her? Or make it a friendly relationship? She's only been with he bf for maybe 2 months now if that helps any.. I've been posting too much =/ I need to get out!
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Girl with bf who keeps texting me...?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Daydream Engineer
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I have that same situation too! She is "gaming" me with personal questions and i have known her for two months.. her BF for 10 months" . and we are going to go jogging together next week. High sexual tension and she is usually making sexual jokes about stuff.... and i natually reciprocate , like we needed a study room to study together... and she said," we need to get a room".... then out of nowhere she said..." but not too make love okay then slaps my arm" in a teasing way...
so she's flirty? hmm, well I wouldn't do anything while she has the bf, but that's a personal choice. I say keep her as an acquaintance, keep being flirty with her, and who knows what may happen in the future. But keep gaming tons of other girls.
46and2aheadofme
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She's almost certainly an attention whor. I have been in a similar situation recently where this chick with a bf would text me 1AM every couple of days saying "what are you up to right now"
She probably had a fight with her bf and is looking for an orbiter to give her some attention.
She will most likely end up disappointing you because she is only giving you spurts of attention so that you will in turn give her lots of attention.
She probably had a fight with her bf and is looking for an orbiter to give her some attention.
She will most likely end up disappointing you because she is only giving you spurts of attention so that you will in turn give her lots of attention.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Her bf lives in a different town (wtf is up with me and chicks with bf's?) but she texted me last night and I took to a sexual state i guess, not sure if it is orr not.
After she texted me I went on about crazy boxers n sh!t and she's like "yea we can shop for some thongs too" I said something(I forgot) and she's like "lets go to joyce leslie, they have very sexy lingerie for good prices". Idk if she wants me to buy her this stuff or not ( Im not buyin sh!t anyway) but Im confused on whether or not I have a chance at getting some pvssy. I've been lusting after her since she first came to my school. No one-itis tho. I just want sex.
After she texted me I went on about crazy boxers n sh!t and she's like "yea we can shop for some thongs too" I said something(I forgot) and she's like "lets go to joyce leslie, they have very sexy lingerie for good prices". Idk if she wants me to buy her this stuff or not ( Im not buyin sh!t anyway) but Im confused on whether or not I have a chance at getting some pvssy. I've been lusting after her since she first came to my school. No one-itis tho. I just want sex.
TheBucketOfTruth
Master Don Juan
She may just be after some male attention or she may be after some "male attention." There's only one way to find out. I'd definitely go do some underwear shopping with her. That seems like a golden opportunity to get a handle on what's going on, hell if it were me I would even have some fun in the fitting rooms if things were going well.Chrom3y said:
SleepyRangerMedic82D
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DUDE... LEAVE IT ALONE!!!!
Make her break it off first or something, but you are wrong for knowingly trying to pursue a girl who has a guy already..
Just keep in mind, if she is talking to you behind his back, she will ALMOST CERTAINLY do the same to you in the future
Make her break it off first or something, but you are wrong for knowingly trying to pursue a girl who has a guy already..
Just keep in mind, if she is talking to you behind his back, she will ALMOST CERTAINLY do the same to you in the future
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Joe Stud
Master Don Juan
If you are looking to put her in the FB category, I see no big problem. She may not be relationship material at this point. play along for a bit, its good entertainment for you. But keep spinning plates
