I was talking to this girl I used to work with the other day. She's cute (HB7-8 at least) so at the end of the convo I said she should give me her number. Without hesitation she gave me her number and then I gave her mine (she said sweet when I gave her mine, lol). Anyway later I found out that she might have a boyfriend. Was she just giving me her number because she thought I wanted to be her friend (never talked to her when we worked together, so we're not friends). Should I just pretend that she doesn't have a bf (I don't know for certain that she has one, it's not like she told me or anything) and just ask her out for a drink. Thanks for your input.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Girl with a boyfriend gave me her number
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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user43770
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Inviting her out for drinks sounds like a great idea. If she's committed, she'll decline.
Nutz
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slaog said:
WRONG!!!
Don't even bring up the subject. If she's serious with the bf let her bring it up. Otherwise you risk her getting feeling guilty or slutty and "logicing out". You have to maintain appearances so she has plausible deniability.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Yeah, but hanging out and flirting a bit is really messing with someone's woman. Who knows, maybe she's the type that waits around for a better deal to come to her (possibly why she never mentioned her boyfriend). It's not like I'm gonna fvck her on the first meet, I do have some class.slaog said:
sodbuster
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Women will SAY they have a BF alot more often then they have one. Not sure if they are trying to show preselection or just a way of bailing out if it gets uncomfortable around you.
Prodigy746
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why do you think she has a bf?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
BustedKnucks
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Morally, I'd skip on this *****.
Or ask her to hang out, and if I see interest from her, tell her I'm not interested in stealing someone's girl.
It's a low move, even if it's the girl's fault, I wouldn't do that to someone else, even if I thought they sucked.
Besides, when you tell her this, if she is interested, at the next sign of a fight with her bf she will leave him and call you. You are securing a future booty call.
Or ask her to hang out, and if I see interest from her, tell her I'm not interested in stealing someone's girl.
It's a low move, even if it's the girl's fault, I wouldn't do that to someone else, even if I thought they sucked.
Besides, when you tell her this, if she is interested, at the next sign of a fight with her bf she will leave him and call you. You are securing a future booty call.
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BustedKnucks said:
If the girl is gonna cheat, it might as well be with me. You can have the moral high ground.
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A girl who worked at the same place as me back in the summer had a boyfriend. We chatted it up on facebook a bit and I told her to give me her number because talking over the internet is lame, and she did.
Of course, I'd then call her and talk a bit, and then ask to talk to her sister and proceed to ask her sister out. Bahaha yes I was quite a chump back then.
Of course, I'd then call her and talk a bit, and then ask to talk to her sister and proceed to ask her sister out. Bahaha yes I was quite a chump back then.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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I'm saying a chump cause of the way I asked her sister out.Kal0051 said:
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As much as I hate it when women cheat, the fact of the matter is that he doesn't own her. She's still free to boink whoever she feels like and if the statistics are to be believed most women (and 20% of men) have multiple partners at any given time anyway.slaog said:
TheBucketOfTruth
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Assume the sale. Don't worry about the boyfriend issue unless it comes up. You can "think" all you want, or pay attention to hearsay, but if you're not sure just proceed as normal for now.