I am 100% if she never comes back **** her then. She didn't value me and now being out of her life she still doesn't see value, I'm honestly just starting to lose what I felt. Dunno how I'd feel if I see her in person, but I'm just feeling a bit disgusted. We'll see though
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Girl who dumped me 2 weeks ago, texts today, how to set up as FwB?
- Thread starter DamnSon
- Start date
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
daddymonsterpoodle
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Dont try and work out why it is irrelevant. Just judge by actions.
She is a proven liar. She dumped you. If she wants to hook up again she will make it obvious.
Do nothing till she makes some effort. Look how much you are investing in this flakey liar.
She is a proven liar. She dumped you. If she wants to hook up again she will make it obvious.
Do nothing till she makes some effort. Look how much you are investing in this flakey liar.
I always say this, but I never believe it when I'm actually in the thick of it haha. It's hard for me to see it black and white when emotions are invested. Like oh maybe I'm paranoid or maybe I ****ed it up somehow. I guess we'll see what time brings
wifehunter
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Take some time... regroup and reflect!
devilkingx2
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i would've said not to respond in the first place, if she dumps you she can fvck off.
going backwards usually isn't a good idea because of the low chance of getting laid and the high chance of making a fool of yourself
going backwards usually isn't a good idea because of the low chance of getting laid and the high chance of making a fool of yourself
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I guess it all depends on my perception of the situation, If i'm over the girl, she has no power, If I'm just hooking up with her and keeping her arm's reach and not over-investing, until she proves herself.. then you know, what's the harm?
Haven't heard from her, 2 days NC. We'll see.
Haven't heard from her, 2 days NC. We'll see.
daddymonsterpoodle
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If she is invested she will contact you. Otherwise no big deal.
I dunno what she was tying to get from me 2 days ago. To be absolved from guilt or something..she didn't hang out so.. we'll see, you're right, time will tell. She was special to me but there are a lot of hot girls that I can laugh and enjoy life with..what makes her so special? The memories and time invested?
sazc
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this too shall pass (im not trying to be mean, it's a fact you'll figure out) someday you'll look back and think (fondly) wow, that was fun, glad I lived thru that, glad I let that go and didnt hang on"
marmel75
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Special how? She wasn't you're girlfriend, she was just some random chick you put on this pedestal and made her out to be something she isn't.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She was, we dated. It was a short relationship though less than 5 months. I was only looking to hook up at first, but we clicked and were magnetic..after years of me just literally running through girls and never wanting to open up or be emotional..somehow this girl got to me.
daddymonsterpoodle
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Yup... That happens. Treasure it and the special time you had together.
Now move on.
Now move on.
marmel75
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She was special because you made her special and didn't see the flaws she had because it was easier to see the version of her you made up in your mind instead of the actual version of her she really was.
EyeBRollin
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When a chick hits me up that blew me off, I give a one word response. If they send a 2nd message to have a convo, I immediately ask them to come over. If they refuse, it's back to NC.
I only do this for chicks already had sex with. If you haven't ****ed this chick, just block her number and forget about her. Please.
I only do this for chicks already had sex with. If you haven't ****ed this chick, just block her number and forget about her. Please.
I ****ed her brains out, and asked her to come over, If wasn't emotionally vested i.e generally hope she has a good life with or without me, I'd probably be a real douchebag. (she didnt come over) but like I said shes home for a month so we'll see what happens.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.