Girl who dumped me 2 weeks ago, texts today, how to set up as FwB?

[DamnSon]

The girl who dumped me because "she feels she rushed into the relationship" Just texted me after I went about 2 weeks of NC. She is the young, 22 year old college senior. She didn't have any psychotic manipulative behavior, I just feel she wanted to be free to mess around and I got a big too controlling/boyfriendy, but no doubt maybe her other "option" didn't pan out.

How should I play this if I want to potentially initiate casual sex?

She texted me "hi" (Her boots are still at my house) If she asks me about them ill tell her I threw them out lol

 

[marmel75]

Just give her short answers, and then tell her to come hang out..she'll know what you are offering

 

[DamnSon]

Her: Hi
Me: Hey
Her: how are you
me: I'm good, you?

 

[marmel75]

OK, now the next text she sends, sayd "Oh cool...I'm busy right now, but I'd love to catch up later, why don't you stop by tomrrow night and bring some wine/vodka/beer and we can hang out." If she agrees she is DTF, if not you just prevented her from wasting any more of your time.

If she refuses, just say "Ok, take care then." and don't text her anymore.

 

[sazc]

OK, now the next text she sends, sayd "Oh cool...I'm busy right now, but I'd love to catch up later, why don't you stop by tomrrow night and bring some wine/vodka/beer and we can hang out." If she agrees she is DTF, if not you just prevented her from wasting any more of your time.

If she refuses, just say "Ok, take care then." and don't text her anymore.

perfect!

 

[marmel75]

perfect!

Lol...never let a woman try and put you in orbit. She either plays by your rules or she plays elsewhere. No woman is ever worth your self-respect and dignity.

 

[DamnSon]

Hell no, is never ever be an orbiter. my first response wanted to be like yeah what do you want? But I know if I wanna hook up again that would put her off. She didn't respond yet. Sometimes I swear they can feel when you're moving on. Either that or she's drunk textin.

 

[sazc]

just please please please dont fall under the spell that 'if she apologizes and gives a weepy excuse, you'll take her back'

speaking as a female, she did you very wrong and she knows it. even if she is a 'confused teenager' she's not any smarter a few months later. it's going to take years for her to figure out how to make respectful decisions regarding men and relationships and then she has to learn how to value and respect men somewhere along that way too.

 

[DamnSon]

"i'm okay. i think i made deans list lol" I'm about to say "woah nice look at you go sport (inside joke) I'm a little busy right now, you wanna get together before you leave for home?" Or is that too much she leaves to go home for a month in 2 days I think

 

[DamnSon]

just please please please dont fall under the spell that 'if she apologizes and gives a weepy excuse, you'll take her back'

speaking as a female, she did you very wrong and she knows it. even if she is a 'confused teenager' she's not any smarter a few months later. it's going to take years for her to figure out how to make respectful decisions regarding men and relationships and then she has to learn how to value and respect men somewhere along that way too.

she must feel ****ty huh..I'm definitely a high value dude and she knows I woulda did a lot for her, maybe that's the issue. I'm sure her other option she's realizing is not the better. BUT I feel as if I still had some impact on it because I got controlling and needy

 

[sazc]

"i'm okay. i think i made deans list lol" I'm about to say "woah nice look at you go sport (inside joke) I'm a little busy right now, you wanna get together before you leave for home?" Or is that too much she leaves to go home for a month in 2 days I think

Say exactly what @marmel75 said

 

[sazc]

she must feel ****ty huh..I'm definitely a high value dude and she knows I woulda did a lot for her, maybe that's the issue. I'm sure her other option she's realizing is not the better. BUT I feel as if I still had some impact on it because I got controlling and needy

Idk if she feels ****ty, that's the problem. She legit could have been monkey branching. You can't tell. That's why she needs to be a plate for awhile

 

[Scars]

Well that was fast.. I've been going NC with my ex, but would like to slide in and out every once in awhile. We have a kid together so she is kind of forced to talk to me, but she is with a new dude and he's over there like every single night, but I can't see it lasting very long. I feel like my ex is coming up with excuses to call me, asking if my daughter left this and that over etc.. sometimes asks if I'm "ok" and ****. Just gonna keep doing my thing..

 

[DamnSon]

I did say that, we'll see way she says. She does legit have to drive a few hours home in the next 1 or 2 days and despises my room mate but we'll see if she counters by inviting me there

 

[sazc]

And now we wait!

 

[DamnSon]

Well that was fast.. I've been going NC with my ex, but would like to slide in and out every once in awhile. We have a kid together so she is kind of forced to talk to me, but she is with a new dude and he's over there like every single night, but I can't see it lasting very long. I feel like my ex is coming up with excuses to call me, asking if my daughter left this and that over etc.. sometimes asks if I'm "ok" and ****. Just gonna keep doing my thing..

4 month of talking 1 month official dating, dumped me December 9th. Liked my FB status 2 days ago texted me today. I know schools done now so we'll see. I still feel a bit uneasy like I don't have 100% control but I'm not being a sucker

 

[Scars]

4 month of talking 1 month official dating, dumped me December 9th. Liked my FB status 2 days ago texted me today. I know schools done now so we'll see. I still feel a bit uneasy like I don't have 100% control but I'm not being a sucker

I've had success with turning EX's into fvck buddies, so it is perfectly possible, but it takes tremendous inner game. If you feel like you're going to get attached and fall in love with her then it's best to just distance yourself. Sometimes you fvck for awhile and start catching feelings.. gotta throw that **** out the window and keep your frame.

 

[DamnSon]

"i needed to do that. i had to do good and i hope you know that " i think I'm going home tomorrow morning =/"

 

[sazc]

"i needed to do that. i had to do good and i hope you know that " i think I'm going home tomorrow morning =/"

Wait....this is the one who told you she had to drop you to study and then you saw pics of her partying a faith other dudes?

She's now trying to swing back around and reiterate the study angle? ( even tho you saw her social media?)

I may be getting mai dudes mixed up, so apologies if that is the case....how close am I?

 

[DamnSon]

I didn't see her partying but saw her in snaps with another dude, it could have been a guy friend..she has a few but let's be real. What do I even say to that. Is she allologizing