"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Girl using BPD as an excuse?

summersky

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Meet a girl, had one date. She seemed very interested, said i am totally her type and asked a lot of questions. Flaked on me before the second date but counteroffered another one. Flaked on that, too! Then talked to me and explained that she has BPD and is going through a bad time right now. From the way she talked about it, I believe her, I normally would recognize when someone is lying. She told me that her mood changed and she doesnt want to date anymore. She dont want to hurt me and effect me with her ill condition.

I believe that she is ill but could it really be the only reason she doesnt want to date? Or is she just using her illness as an excuse? How can i find out?

I would be happy about every opinion!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Malcontent

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Move on.


It doesn't matter if she is lying or telling the truth.

Either way it should be a deal breaker. Option 1: Liar. Option 2: BPD. Both not worth your time.

PS: Age is required in your profile to post in Mature Man.
 

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Moved to General Discussion. No age in profile.

OP, are you sure she didn't say "Bipolar Disease"? I've noticed that women with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) almost never admit that diagnosis, but plenty of them say they're "bipolar".
 

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Friendzone her. Maybe you'll get some FWB play but don't get into a relationship with her, whether she'd BPD or Bipolar you want no part of that.
 
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I am sure she said bpd. Friendzone her? I would like to lay her since she is very hot but the thing is, she dont wanna go out anymore.. Guess there is nothing I can do to lay her anyway?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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