"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Girl using BPD as an excuse?

summersky

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Meet a girl, had one date. She seemed very interested, said i am totally her type and asked a lot of questions. Flaked on me before the second date but counteroffered another one. Flaked on that, too! Then talked to me and explained that she has BPD and is going through a bad time right now. From the way she talked about it, I believe her, I normally would recognize when someone is lying. She told me that her mood changed and she doesnt want to date anymore. She dont want to hurt me and effect me with her ill condition.

I believe that she is ill but could it really be the only reason she doesnt want to date? Or is she just using her illness as an excuse? How can i find out?

I would be happy about every opinion!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Malcontent

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Move on.


It doesn't matter if she is lying or telling the truth.

Either way it should be a deal breaker. Option 1: Liar. Option 2: BPD. Both not worth your time.

PS: Age is required in your profile to post in Mature Man.
 

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Moved to General Discussion. No age in profile.

OP, are you sure she didn't say "Bipolar Disease"? I've noticed that women with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) almost never admit that diagnosis, but plenty of them say they're "bipolar".
 

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Friendzone her. Maybe you'll get some FWB play but don't get into a relationship with her, whether she'd BPD or Bipolar you want no part of that.
 
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summersky

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I am sure she said bpd. Friendzone her? I would like to lay her since she is very hot but the thing is, she dont wanna go out anymore.. Guess there is nothing I can do to lay her anyway?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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