"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl using BPD as an excuse?

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Meet a girl, had one date. She seemed very interested, said i am totally her type and asked a lot of questions. Flaked on me before the second date but counteroffered another one. Flaked on that, too! Then talked to me and explained that she has BPD and is going through a bad time right now. From the way she talked about it, I believe her, I normally would recognize when someone is lying. She told me that her mood changed and she doesnt want to date anymore. She dont want to hurt me and effect me with her ill condition.

I believe that she is ill but could it really be the only reason she doesnt want to date? Or is she just using her illness as an excuse? How can i find out?

I would be happy about every opinion!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Move on.


It doesn't matter if she is lying or telling the truth.

Either way it should be a deal breaker. Option 1: Liar. Option 2: BPD. Both not worth your time.

PS: Age is required in your profile to post in Mature Man.
 
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Moved to General Discussion. No age in profile.

OP, are you sure she didn't say "Bipolar Disease"? I've noticed that women with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) almost never admit that diagnosis, but plenty of them say they're "bipolar".
 
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Friendzone her. Maybe you'll get some FWB play but don't get into a relationship with her, whether she'd BPD or Bipolar you want no part of that.
 
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I am sure she said bpd. Friendzone her? I would like to lay her since she is very hot but the thing is, she dont wanna go out anymore.. Guess there is nothing I can do to lay her anyway?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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